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Funny, informative and light-hearted
am 25. September 2012
I REALLY enjoyed reading this book. It's written in a light-hearted, often self-deprecating way, but it's full of humour and useful information about child rearing! My daughter is 15 months old but I've picked up a lot of tips that I can still try to implement with her, and will definitely try "The Pause" with the next baby. Coming from NZ, having lived in different countries and now living in Germany, I feel like I don't really have one set view on how to raise my children - except that they should be well-behaved! I therefore found a lot of how the French raise their kids to be in line with what I believe, and found it useful to read practical information about how certain behaviours are instilled in their children.
I think as with any book, you can take away what you will. Noone's forcing you to agree with everything the author's saying, and at the end you can choose whether you'd like to try and adopt some of the tips that she suggests or not (although I liked and agreed with a lot of what I read, there were definitely some things that I didn't agree with). One thing that I really identified with is letting babies and children just be children, and learning and exploring the world for themselves (this French belief in "awakening"). I'm not so familiar with this whole "Einstein Baby" DVD - but just the name makes me laugh. I mean, Einstein grew up without all of these programs, learning and developmental games, and DVDs - and he turned out just fine! I believe that each child inherently has certain skills and talents, and yes, it's up to the parents to recognise and help develop these skills further. But I'm also wary of engendering any sort of panic in parents if they're not shoving these sorts of gimmicks down their kids' throats from an early age.
I also really liked (and admire!) how the French educate their children about food. I'm not only concerned about my daughter's health, but strongly believe that she can eat and enjoy basically the same foods as we adults do (and she does!). I have tended not to repeatedly give her certain foods that she refuses, but after having read about how our tastes evolve and our dislike for certain tastes can actually change if our palate is introduced to that food often enough, I will definitely keep on introducing those foods over and over again (not forcing them on her, but letting her experience the taste and texture again) - until she accepts and even likes them (let's see if I can do the same for myself with mushrooms!).
Becoming a parent is definitely the biggest commitment anyone can make, it totally changes your life overnight, and is the hardest job in the world! I think every parent is just struggling to do their best, and is constantly questioning their decisions from day to day (and hopes they're doing the right thing!). Pamela Druckerman (the author) is no different. One thing that definitely helps set the tone of the book is how the author looks at her own life and habits and deplores the mistakes that she believes she's made along the way (raising 3 kids). She isn't preaching, forcing you to see things her way, or to be a devotee to the French style of parenting. This is a book that is simply sharing some newfound wisdom, and I would highly recommend you to give it a try! At the very least it should provide for some entertaining reading - but hopefully, like me, you'll also take away a tip or two and benefit from her learning experiences.