am 18. Oktober 1999
I read this book in 1994 to help me with the loss of my grandmother to cancer. As I was reading the book, I began to understand how many other ways I had experienced grief in my life and never even knew it because "we don't talk about things like that". I understood how changing jobs, moving to a new state, and giving birth are all moments in my life when I experienced change, and as a result, grief. I learned/understood that my emotional responses to each of these situations were not crazy but normal, and that awareness allowed me to work through the grief process much better. I was also better able to support myself in healthy ways. Because of the chapter on personal illness or the illness of a loved one, I have been sharing this information with the patients at my hospital ever since. The patients (and their loved ones) are experiencing grief as they learn to cope with a temporary or permanent disability as the result of illness, accident, or surgery. I am truly grateful that I found this book so that I can heal through my own grief, as well as support the people I meet on a daily basis. Many of the patients and their loved ones have thanked me for sharing this information with them and commented on how much the information has helped them to begin healing through their changes.
am 14. Oktober 1999
I discovered this book in the early 90's after my Father passed away from cancer. There had been many deaths in my small family - a sister at 19 (auto crash) and 3 weeks later my first husband committed suicide several years ago. This book enabled me to work through the grief that had been unresolved for a long time and regain self-esteem which tragedy destroys. I was so impressed that she didn't "preach" - she shared her own experience. I have used this book through the years for reference and have passed it on to friends. I have bought 3 copies just for myself because no one wants to give it up after they read it. My present copy is dog-eared and highlighted throughout. My husband and soul-mate died almost 2 years ago - also from cancer. Once again, this book is helping me, especially when I learned that Bozarth-Campbell had lost her husband after writing it. She had added a prologue describing the additional grief she suffered. I am now ordering a copy for a friend who is also going through grief. I highly recommend Life is Goodbye for anyone experiencing grief of any kind. It doesn't have to be a death. Thank you Dr. Bozarth-Campbell for saving the sanity of many.
am 30. November 1998
Bozarth walks you through all kinds of loss. Loss is of a friendship, a job, an age, or a beloved person or pet. This book is conclusive evidence that we will encounter many deaths within our lifetime, and as long as we have faith, we will survive intact. The trick is to acknowledge the loss, allow the grieveing and looking ahead once again with trust. This book is a great restoritive. I bought it first for a sociology class, then bought four more copies to give.