I had know idea what was wrong with me and I couldn't figure out why I did the things I did until I read this book. It gave me strength to be honest about myself and to leave the addictive relationship I was in without going back. It helped me understand the "withdrawal" of another person.Now I get to start my life over a healthier way.
I used this book several years ago. It helped me to discern the difference between real love and "person addiction". After I had figured out that I was in fact in an addictive relationship, it gave me practical advice on what to do about it! How to keep from calling, how to move on, what's normal, what isn't. I recommend it to some friends in need!
A friend recommended this to me after an excruciating break up. "She" was my one and only, or so I thought. This book covers many areas of bad relationships. I myself had fallen deeply in love with a married woman, and I just knew we'd get it together. We didn't. This book helped me recognize that she wasn't leaving him. And so I was all over the place. This book held my irrational fears up for what they were, irrational. However, it begs you to examine your relationship with your parents. While my parents weren't perfect, I don't feel like they were as big a responsibility as the book suggests. Also, be careful, this book might make you confront fears and reality, and many aren't prepared for that path. But overall, if you're suffering, read this. You'll take away positives.
When I read this book a few years ago it put the cards on the table and I had to look at them. I learned amazing things about myself and destructive behavior....I contribute enormous life changes from this book, which enabled me to save my marriage. I recommend it to anyone in pain.
Reading this book was one of the cornerstones & turning points in my recovery from relationship addiction. I read it cover to cover in a few days, rinsed & repeated. It was recommended to me by someone very knowlegable on relationship issues and I recommend it VERY HIGHLY.