am 23. Juni 2000
I feel that this is an excellent book for first time parents. I found the first three months very helpful as I have never experienced life with a child younger than three months. As a infant/toddler child care provider, I know that children don't exactly follow their month by month format. But they also state that is is a month to month guide and that children develop at their own pace. I know children who begin walking at 8 months and completely skip crawling and I know of children who don't walk until they are 14 - 16 months. There is no normal when it comes to children. They develop at their own pace and often not within any guidelines. The section on what to do if your child is sick is very helpful as is the section on childhood illness. What I did is read the book and skipped over the sections I did not believe in. So if you feel co-sleeping is great, skip that section. I ear marked many sections so I could refer to them later. Even my husband reads this book!
am 17. November 1998
I too was absolutely flabbergasted at the number of people (or is it one person posting several times?) who dismissed this 800 page encyclopedia because of two small and unimportant sections on breast-feeding and "cry-it-out." You're not going to agree with everything in here. But the authors never intend that. Instead, they offer an invaluable reference book for parents. Want to know what that red blotch on your kid's arm is? This is the only book that will tell you. (It's probably a strawberry birthmark, very common, rarely lasts beyond age 10, etc.) The Q&A style is great, it leaves you feeling that you're not the only one who has these questions. And 99% of the book's content is pretty straightforward (why is my baby fascinated by mirrors? why are her eyes that weird bluish-brown color?)We found the authors' pregnancy book invaluable for the same reason-- it was a bit too treacly about pregnancy (e.g. "If you're feeling nauseous knit a sweater") but provided a wonderful, factual guide to what was going on with both fetus and mother.Parenting is 99% instinct. You can't rely on a book to tell you WHAT to do. This book is great in that it explains WHY things are happening.We find the Sears to be unrealistic and believe that people who fanatically follow their advice run the risk of losing any sense of self, which is way more harmful than the occasional bottle of formula, since babies rarely thrive with parents who resent them.A good supplement to this book (What to Expect) is Vicki Iovine's "Girlfriend's Guide To The First Year." It's hilarious and guaranteed to make you feel that you're a pretty good parent after all.Use this book to answer all the "why" questions you have. It'll cut down on the number of calls you make to the pediatrician (or at the very least make you feel a little more knowledgeable when you do.)
am 7. Juni 2000
This book is great! It gives you lots of information about each month of your pregnancy. It also helps alleviate any concerns or worries you might have in a caring and informative manner. You never feel like your worries are stupid and being able to read this book is great because it's very well organized and talks about each stage clearly. I really loved having it with me to use as a reference book and also as a month-by-month information book.
am 8. August 1997
Ok book for some basic information. Condones "cry it out", which goes against all mothering instincts. Not enough empasis on how important breastfeeding is
am 23. Mai 2000
This book, unfortunately, is not the same quality as "What to Expect when You're Expecting". The information is okay but it has not been thoroughly updated. (Example: the current breastfeeding recommendation is 12 months, but the book says 6 months.) Moreover, it uses the month-by-month organization that the previous "What to Expect" book did. The month-by-month organization does not work when following baby's development. There is too much variability. For example, some babies will start crawling by the 4th or 5th month. Mine was almost 8 months old before she started. Example #2: Solids are covered in the 4th month chapter, however, you can start as late as 6 months.
As a result, I had to consult several chapters to get all the information on a particular subject (sleeping problems, for example). Then I had to mark the pages so I could find it again later. Sometimes I could not find what I was looking for until after a lengthy search. (Let's see, would that be in the 2nd month or the 4th? Hmmm...not here...which chapter could it be?)
It wasn't long before I looked for a new baby book. I've found "The Baby Book" by Sears & Sears to be excellent. The information is well-organized, quite current, and quite thorough. It is organized more by subject than by month, but it still has a list of suggested milestones for each month. There's also plenty of suggestions and real-life examples as experienced by the Sears and by their patients. I use it all the time and I haven't gone back to the "What to Expect the First Year" book even once!
am 26. März 2000
then leave this book on the shelf. And if you get it for a shower gift, throw it in the trash.
Ms. Aisenberg does not support attachment parenting and the family bed. She actually suggests that a 7-month-old baby cries because he is a "mommy-manipulater", in her words, and not because he wants his needs met and the love and attention that all babies rightly deserve. You CANNOT spoil a baby! How can you possibly give too much love and affection to a child?
Ms. Aisenberg also gives some of the worst breastfeeding advice I have ever seen. I would think that a nurse would know better. Most women can eat just about anything they want while nursing, and one reviewer aptly pointed out that it IS possible to nurse an adopted baby. It might be a little more work, because you have to induce lactation, but it IS possible. It is also possible to nurse a baby with a cleft lip or palate. Again, like nursing an adopted baby, it might be a little more work if you have to pump (You might not even have to pump if the baby's cleft isn't too severe that he/she can't make suction!) but it HAS been done before. Ms. Aisenberg just assumes that it's impossible, so don't even consider it.
If you are going to do all the "mainstream" stuff in parenting, then you'll probably like this book. If not, then don't waste your money.
am 24. Januar 2000
For the sake of your baby don't buy this book. It's full of inaccurate, medically unsound, cruel and cold advice. Babies need constant love, not the leave them in a dark room to cry it out approach. Your baby is not trying to manipulate -- (s)he cries for many reasons but not to manipulate you. As a new, first-time mother, I think we mothers should try to raise the next generation with more love and compassion than the last was afforded. Perhaps if babies are cuddled regularly, breastfed (or expressed milk bottlefed or formula if neccessary) and sleep near or with mother, they will learn love, trust and compassion at their Mother's Knee. Old ways in mothering, such as trusting your instincts are the best. Don't buy into the Brave New World approach of parenthood advocated my these authors. I tried to get my baby to sleep in his owm room when he was at one year -- even let him cry it out several times, thinking "everyone" including this book, was giving good advice to a seriously sleep-deprived mother. I still have guilt about doing that. But I realized my instinct was correct, so my son still sleeps in our bedroom, sometimes with us. Generally he sleeps through the night. He's 19 months and he's happy -- so we're happy Please, buy the Baby Book by Sears and enjoy raising your baby -- the most important job you'll ever hold. With your every action, you mold your little one into the person (s)he will become -- May we form them well, and if we are lucky, they will remember us well.
am 31. August 1999
Hands down, the absolute best book out there for new parents. You may have other books to cross-reference, but when you want the most comprehensive advice, you will turn to this book time and time again.
The first twelve months of your baby's life are broken down into chapters that address issues, like milestones that your baby will be crossing (e.g., smiling spontaneously by the 5th month), what you can expect at this months check-up (e.g., vaccinations), and then in a question/answer format "what you may be concerned about" (e.g., how to handle diaper rash). In this section, of each chapter, you will find extremely useful information that will answer every possible concern you may have as a new parent.
Some other excellent chapters include First Aid, Surviving the First Six Weeks, and what to do before the baby is born to best prepare. I recommend that you buy the book before you deliver so you can take advantage of the great tips on what to buy before the baby is born, what to take with you to the hospital when you go into labor, and how to handle things like preparing the family pet.
What to Expect the First Year is a great place to turn before calling your baby's pediatrician, and it's truly the only book you'll need to help you through your incredible first year of parenting.
am 2. August 1999
I'm a nurse who read this book and was angry at many of the suggestions. First of all, the newborn care advice is basic, which is fine for some parents, but not for those who want more grown-up advice. The advice to leave your baby alone to cry is absurd. What about the basic infant developmental level of "trust vs. mistrust"? This advice could lead parents to have a whiney, insecure baby. I think a recommendation of lots of love and affection would be more appropriate. Infants who are held often and who have parents who respond to their needs are more secure and end up crying less after the first few months. Also, what is wrong with letting a newborn sleep in your bed? In many other countries, this is normal behavior and it not harmful to a baby. The more affection, the better! The author is very condescending and opinionated and isn't giving good advice when it comes to bonding. Also, I was offended at the sections about adoptive parents, as if most adoptive parents are ill-prepared and clueless about babies. And, breastfeeding is possible with adoption! However, the month-by-month expected baby behavior is helpful. This book has some very helpful advice but the lack of advice and encouragement related to loving, affectionate bonding and mmeeting the emotional needs of your baby, makes this book highly overpromoted.
am 20. Mai 1999
I bought What to Expect When You're Expecting and loved it, so I got this book when my daughter was born, but it has not lived up to its predecessor. I find things are not consistent throughout the book -- what on one page they say the kid will be doing at 7 months, later they say they will be doing it at 8 months. This happens often, more so toward the latter half of the first year. They seem to change the ages halfway through -- in the beginning, "the first month" means from birth up to one month; later "the seventh month" seems to mean from the seventh up to the eighth month. They also use the ability to pay attention to or pick up a raisin as a benchmark of your child's development, but later the book explicitly advises against feeding your infant raisins (choking hazard)! The book is almost militant about diet -- whole grains only, absolutely no salt or sugar (this would rule out the number-one baby food, Cheerios!). Not practical for the real mother. However I was most upset by their treatment of homosexuality (in a footnote): "Boys who display feminine traits early in childhood, like to play with dolls, and avoid rough sports are more likely to become homosexual ... These boys become estranged from their fathers, and, it is speculated, may ever hunger for male love ... professional consultation may be a good idea." I was flipping to the copyright page after this, expecting to see a date from the 1950s, but this book was copyrighted most recently in 1996. Bottom line: While some of the information here is useful, you can get it elsewhere. Pick another book.