am 22. Oktober 1999
In person, I come across as a cheerful extrovert. But I've long been bothered by traits I viewed as signs of immaturity: Being in the spotlight makes me feel "depleted" and "wired" at the same time (I used to teach evening classes that ended at 9 PM, but afterwards I couldn't get to sleep until 1 AM!). If I happen to read a horror story (true or fiction), or see a frightening or violent picture, it haunts me for days. I can't stand loud noises: I once went to the Chinese New Year parade in San Francisco, and after a couple of hours of firecrackers I was a nervous wreck. Although I enjoy being around my friends and co-workers, I spend most evenings holed up with a book or writing in my journal. And I prefer to travel, and go to concerts and museums, by myself rather than with a friend. So I found this book very enlightening: not only did it explain why I have these reactions, but it gave me a more positive view of them. I found the book somewhat repetitious: she makes most of her points at the beginning, and from then on she just reiterates them; on the other hand, if I were the parent of a child or adolescent with these traits, I'd probably find her discussion of HSPs at various life stages more useful. But in general the book is very helpful, and I'd recommend it to anyone: HSPs who want to feel better about themselves, and non-HSPs who want to understand their fellow human beings better.
am 11. Februar 2003
E. Aaron hat - als selbst Betroffene und ausgebildete Psychologin - einen Meilenstein geschaffen.
Mit viel Wärme aber auch wissenschaftlichem Scharfsinn beschreibt sie die "Highly Sensitive Persons", jene Menschen mit feinen Sinnen für Unterschiede und Eindrücke. Aber auch jene Menschen, denen vor allem heftige oder neue Reize schnell eine Über-Erregung bescheren.
Dieses Buch hilft Betroffenen sich selber zu verstehen, ihre Begabung als solche zu erkennen, aber auch zu verstehen, warum sie sich manchmal (oft) so belastend auswirkt. Warum die Umwelt oft so mit Unverständnis reagiert und sich der Betroffene (schon als Kind) als fehlerhaft, "zu empfindlich" oder gar krank/gestört empfunden hat. Schließlich hilft das Buch dann auch, mit dieser Fähigkeit schonend umzugehen und sich im Zweifelsfalle zu schützen.
Angehörigen, Therapeuten, Lehrern sei dieses Buch ebenfalls wärmstens ans Herz gelegt.
Ein Buch, von dem ich sehr froh bin, dass ich es gelesen habe.
am 24. August 1998
If you are an HSP and are having some of the same problems that I am (such as; hating your sensitivity because you feel that you can hardly find anyone to share it with, who will appreciate you and the quality of being sensitive to others needs and feelings as well as your own, you feel overwhelmed by alot of unsensitive people in the world who come off as ignorant and are not sure what to do about it downright short of becoming ignorant yourself or letting the situation go, seeing yourself as have a problem being assertive just because you don't want to hurt someone else's feelings, but they couldn't care less if they hurt yours - I could keep going, but I'll stop.)
Well then this book can help you. I found it very helpful in understanding that I was born a sensitive person, and no matter how much I try to change myself - I can't - I have to accept who I am and not be so hard on myself. This book is not really a self help book in the sense that it will help you to change things you do not like about yourself, it is about accepting the way you are and learning how to incorporate that new found knowledge into your life. This message of acceptance is the major message I got from the book.
Elaine Aaron also gives tips on reframing past events in the new light of looking at your trait as a blessing and not a curse. In the hopes that you will see how this trait has affected you and your reactions to certain situations your entire life, and help you to understand and accept those reactions and find strategies that will help you to cope with and get through those situations when they happen in the future.
Ms. Aaron also identifies characteristics of our society that feed into the misconception that high sensitivity is bad and why this notion came to be. (Don't get me wrong, everything has its good and bad points.) Just becoming aware of the reasons that lead our culture to look at sensitivity as bad is a good step in accepting yourself, that there is nothing wrong with you. Unfortunately there are alot of misconceptions in this world caused by ignorance which inturn feeds into hate.
All in all I really appreciated the book, although I wish it had touched on more specific feelings and how to cope with them, because it would help me not to feel as isolated, alone, and different in a strange and bad sort of way (a oddity of nature in today's unsensitive world), knowing that other people have these feelings sometimes too.
One of the major feelings that she did touch on however was the feeling as though something is wrong w/you because you have always felt different and the reason that you have always felt different is because of your trait. Also, the damage of people telling you "you're too sensitive". People make it sound like it's a bad thing, but everyone needs sensitivity at some point in their life -- understanding, compassion, empathy (actually they all want it but they won't give it). I'll be the first to admit, I don't understand this world -- especially the people in it.
am 18. September 2015
This is an excellent book for anyone interested in understanding high human sensitivity. It describes the topic thoroughly and it is based on a lot research and personal insights of the author. Some arguments and suggestions in the book are a bit whimsical. I was amused by this style, but some may find these portions of the book useless. Also, people who are neither sensitive nor in the close proximity of a sensitive person may find it hard to associate with the arguments and the descriptions in the book.
am 12. November 1999
The author provides us with a very good understanding of what she calls "highly sensitive persons", but displays "HSP's" in a very stereotypical way, including what "we" like, do, feel and think. This is stupid, since we are all different - "HSP's" or not. I also find the constant rant about how "special" we are quite arrogant, and her explanations of her "trait" sound more like self-deception than truth. I found the book to be very irritating to read at times. Despite the above, the author has some interesting theories, and provides useful insight on a variety of topics relating to "HSP's", our past, and how it shapes our present and future. A final note to male readers: the book is written almost exclusively from a female perspective, which is sad, since male "HSP's" probably suffer even more than their female counterparts.
am 12. April 1998
I am the author of the book, "Coming Home: The Return to True Self", which looks under the surface to the heart of personal and spiritual growth. Now, after reading Dr. Aron's book, I realize that I automatically (and unknowingly) wrote "Coming Home" for an audience of HSPs. Now I recommend "The Highly Sensitive Person" to most of my readers, clients, students, and friends. This book brings us HSPs out of the wings and onto center stage by describing us to ourselves in a way that makes us happy to be recognized. It shows us the micro-view and the macro-view of our lives, kindly presenting our strengths and pitfalls in areas such as: relating to the world, socializing, relationships, work, and spiritual purpose.
I have underlined things on almost every page of this book. The stunning array of information is clear, practical, useful, and always supportive. Dr. Aron leaves us HSPs appreciating and understanding ourselves in a way that no one has ever taught us, until now. I can imagine that after reading this book, many overwhelmed, overstressed, and despairing people will realize that, indeed, there is a place in this world for them after all.
am 3. Dezember 2013
Fließend geschrieben, gründlich erklärt, einige gut gewählte Beispiele und nicht überfrachtet mit solchen. Ich habe gründlich und richtig begriffen, was mit "highly sensitive" gemeint ist. Die Autorin gibt auch Hinweise, wie Menschen, die "highly "sensitive" sind, mit ihrem Leben besser umgehen können. Sie wiederholt sich ein wenig darin, aber das empfinde ich als Möglichkeit, um noch besser im wahren Leben zu handeln und Dinge anders zu sehen. Es prägt sich besser ein, was ich anders sehen/handhaben kann in Zukunft. Auch dieser Autorin herzlichen Dank für dieses lehrreiche, "erleuchtende" und mein Leben definitiv verbesserndes Buch!
am 3. September 2014
I bought this book after a painful incident at work, I thought it was about time for me to start understanding why I was so emotionally affected by things other people took lighlty. I started reading it just before the holidays and then had to stop because it proved very painful to see so myself so clearly. Once I finished I regretted not having had all this information much earlier in my life. It would have helped me to prevent some situations, to be more careful, to engage or not with some people or circumstances that triggered the 'wrong' reaction. I recommend it highly to anyone that keeps wondering 'what's wrong with me?' There's nothing wrong with the highly sensitive person, we only need to be aware of our trait and act in consequence. I only wish I had found this book years ago!
am 24. November 2012
Das Thema verfolgt mich seit meiner Kindheit: warum bin ich anders als die erfolgreichen, lauten und fröhlichen Mitmenschen.
Das Gefühl der Nicht-Zugehörigkeit und Minderwertigkeit, gleichzeitig auch die Ahnung, dass ich auch Vorteile aus meiner Dünnhäutigkeit schöpfe, blieb bisher ohne Begründung bzw. Korrektur.
Auch wenn sich mein Leben durch diese neu vermittelte Sichtweise nicht dramatisch ändern wird, ist diese Darstellung für mich eine fühlbare Bestätigung und Ansporn, viele Aspekte meines Lebens, Fühlens und Denkens neu einzuorden (zu "re-framen") und damit neue und bessere Bedeutung zu geben.
Schade, dass es keine deutsche Übersetzung zu geben scheint, das Buch hätte eine deutsche Ausgabe verdient, gerade weil im deutschsprachigen Raum dieses Thema meines Erachtens noch viel zu wenig Aufmerksamkeit besitzt - unbedingt lesen!
am 11. Februar 2000
This book touches on a topic few people discuss...why some people are so sensitive. I love how the author tries to reassure the highly sensitive that no, they not crazy or "flawed." I tend to be drawn to highly sensitive people; many of my favorite celebrities, including singer Steve Perry & the late Princess Diana are highly sensitive. Also my favorite fictional book character, Mary Anne Spier is very sensitive. Sensitive people fascinate me; they seem to have a surreal, pleasing quality about them that sets them apart from normal people. Maybe that's why many of them feel "odd" or "different." I like how the book encourages the highly sensitive to learn to deal with their strong emotions, not try to hide from them or let their emotions overwhelm them. We need more research & books about sensitivity.