- Gebundene Ausgabe: 272 Seiten
- Verlag: Villard (26. Januar 2010)
- Sprache: Englisch
- ISBN-10: 0345518195
- ISBN-13: 978-0345518194
- Größe und/oder Gewicht: 14,7 x 2,3 x 21,7 cm
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The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction (Englisch) Gebundene Ausgabe – 26. Januar 2010
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Über den Autor und weitere Mitwirkende
Mystery is the author of The Mystery Method, the star of VH1's The Pickup Artist, and the founder of VenusianArts.com, the top pickup training organization in the world. He has appeared on Late Night with Conan O'Brien, The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, Jimmy Kimmel Live!, and a wide variety of media including CNN, The New York Times, and Playboy. Mystery lives in Los Angeles and enjoys his travels.
Chris Odom, aka Lovedrop, has traveled with Mystery for years, coaching students in the field and speaking at pickup seminars and conferences all over the world. He is the author of Revelation, the co-writer of The Mystery Method, and a founder of VenusianArts.com. He lives in Los Angeles with his girlfriend.
Leseprobe. Abdruck erfolgt mit freundlicher Genehmigung der Rechteinhaber. Alle Rechte vorbehalten.
WELCOME TO MIAMI
"I am indulging in my humanity," I said.
I took a long drag from my spliff and then passed it matter-of-factly to the blonde seated next to me (without looking at her). She took it as I continued, "And I can say to all of you now, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I"-pause-"have earned it. Eh, brother?" I smiled at Lovedrop, my trusty wingman.
"Mystery, you're damn right," said Lovedrop, "and this is going to be a great year." He raised a glass of chocolate protein shake and took a swig.
"I'm just living in the Now," I said, making a grand, sweeping gesture with my hands. "The Universe presents itself. I mean, look at all the math. It's absolutely brilliant." My straight, dark hair was pulled back into a ponytail, an expression of fascination fixed on my angular face.
The blonde next to me wore my trademark fuzzy black hat. I had used it earlier in the night as a lock-in prop. It was too big on her, and she looked very cute with it on. She had almond-shaped doe eyes and wide, Slavic features-my favorite type. She smiled at me. It was on. I'd been working on this one for a few hours; I was just comfort building now.
"This couch looks like something out of The Jetsons!" said the other girl, a brunette with long, straight hair. She wore a green cocktail dress and dark eye makeup. "I love this rug, though. It must cost you a fortune to have it cleaned."
The four of us-Lovedrop, the two women, and I-relaxed on a white shag rug. Lining the wall around us was a futuristic, white leather couch. Everything was white. The fourteen-thousand-dollar custom curtains were white. The giant avant-garde, plastic light fixtures around the house were white. Even the dog was white.
Seated in a nook nearby at a glass table was our acquaintance, the Rat. He was using his debit card to crush a few small blue pills on the surface of the table. The Rat flashed a sagging, loose smile from wet lips.
"Hey LD," he said, a slight whine to his voice, slurring, "you want one of these Roxies?"
Lovedrop smirked. "Haven't you had enough already? You look like you're about to drool all over that table."
The girls giggled.
"Is that a no?" The Rat kept smiling greasily as if to say, You know you want some.
A projector played music videos on the far wall of the room, and a bouncy hip-hop song came on. Lovedrop got up and started to dance to the music, bathed in the changing light of the projector. "I love this song," he said, and he was only half lying. It wasn't what he would actually sit around listening to through a pair of headphones, but it was perfect for dancing with girls.
The brunette stood up and started to dance with him. "Do you guys own this house?" she asked, the shag rug feeling oh-so-soft under her bare feet. All the pieces came together as a vibe: the beat of the music, the light from the projector, the dancing, the laughter, the smoke in the air. He put one hand on her hip and circled the other in the air like swinging a lasso.
"Hey Mystery," said Lovedrop, "remember the Matthew McConaughey chicken dance? In Vegas." He started flapping his arms like a chicken.
"I don't know about Matthew McConaughey, but you're in Miami now," said the Rat. "Hey LD, you look like the Backstreet Boys with that dance you're doing." He snickered under his breath and licked his lips.
"I guess I was lucky all I got was their dance moves," said Lovedrop. "And meanwhile you got stuck with their goatee, smack-dab in the middle of your face."
"Ouch," said the brunette. She smiled at Lovedrop and tucked her hair behind one ear.
The Rat scooted back in his futuristic chair and placed his hand on his chest indignantly. "LD, I'm hurt," he said in his whiny voice. "I'm hurt that you would say that. After everything that I would do for you." He actually sounded sad; it was good.
The Rat paused and then pushed it a little further. "LD, you know I love you like a brother, don't you? You guys, you're like brothers to me. I love you guys."
The brunette joked, "The girl is supposed to say 'I love you' first." She tossed her hair back and forth with the music, little green earrings swinging.
"Do you really know Matthew McConaughey?" the blonde asked me as she handed me the spliff. She touched her cheek and then ran her fingers back through her hair.
"No, no," I said, holding the spliff daintily. My nails were freshly painted black, matching my toes. I paused to take a drag. "I met him once in Vegas. In a small club. Not Tangerine, but near there. I saw him do his chicken dance."
The girls both said, "What's the chicken dance?" and then they looked at each other and giggled.
Lovedrop explained: "It's how McConaughey was picking up women. It's his game."
The blonde shook her head. "Matthew McConaughey doesn't need game to pick up women. He's hot."
"I deduced his game plan," I continued, "at least for that night. But I presumed he must have used this particular tactic before." I took a final drag from the spliff and then extinguished it directly onto the glass coffee table, then continued: "I was at this club in Vegas and there he was, doing this weird chicken dance, and of course it gets a reaction. McConaughey's flapping his arms around and walking low, and bobbing his head up and down. Just drunk as a skunk-"
"It provokes people!" said Lovedrop.
My voice took on a conspiratorial tone as I continued: "They make comments to each other about how funny he looks, and they start to ask each other, 'Who is that guy?' And then finally someone says, 'Wait, that's Matthew McConaughey!' and it starts to get around."
I spoke with a certain rhythm, and a fascinated glint in my eye. "Soon, McConaughey's got everyone whispering, 'He's that movie star' and 'Wasn't he dating so-and-so?' His value demonstrations got uploaded into everyone's head. People are looking at him, talking about him; the whole room is warmed up for him."
I paused, opened both of my hands, and continued: "And it worked. He started chicken dancing with this girl. And he was crossing some barriers, he was socially violating a little bit, but knowingly. I'm more than certain he knew what he was doing."
I suddenly produced a plastic eyeball and held it up for everyone to see. Then I tossed it into the air and it vanished, eliciting a gasp. I grinned and said, "McConaughey made his own chicken splash, all over the room."
Everyone laughed. "Did you talk to him?" asked the blonde.
"Well, I talked to him for a few minutes," I said. "He and I had dated the same girl, Jackie, and we talked about our dogs . . ."
The blonde squeezed my skinny arm and said, "Do you guys know what Mystery said to me tonight, when I walked by? He looked over at me like he's curious about something and then he says, 'You ever dump in a gold toilet?' "
The brunette's jaw dropped open. "Are you serious?" she said.
The blonde giggled. She started to apply some lip gloss and said, "I couldn't believe it at first: That was his opener! And then he says it again: 'I said, you ever dump in a gold toilet? It's divine!' "
Both of the girls burst out laughing, and the brunette looked at me and said, "Oh my God! I never would have talked to you if you had said that to me!"
The blonde continued, " . . . I mean who talks like that?"
No one talks like that, my dear, I thought; not when they're trying to impress you. That's the point. I'm a firm believer in disqualifying myself as a potential suitor early on; the pickup just seems to go easier that way.
The blonde started toying with the strap on her purse, and then she said, "We were curious about you guys, though. We thought you were in a band or something. Are you in a band?"
The brunette said, "Yeah really,...
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Fazit, wer Grundsatzprobleme im Game hat oder Anfänger ist, etwas Geld über hat, der sollte es sich kaufen, wer Mystery-Fan ist und wissen will wie armseelig die Bande ist und das Matador Chef vom Ganzen ist, der sollte es sich kaufen. Wer Erfahrung im ,pickup hat, über Wissen verfügt und meint der Titel entspricht dem Inhalt, der sollte es nicht kaufen und sich die Mysteryvideos in English auf You Tube geben, das bringt das selbe wenn nicht gar mehr.
Wie man sowas als PUA und Social Dynamics Trainer schreiben kann ist mir ein Rätsel, eigentlich lacht man speziel ihn wegem seines restlichen Lebens einfach nur aus.
In diesem Buch gibt er EINEM Schüler (Sonderunterricht für nur einen Schüler) Tipps und gutgemeinte Ratschläge was er beim Ansprechen oder Kennenlernen einer Personengruppe (einem Set)oder einer Frau (dem Target) zu tun oder zu unterlassen hat. Nicht viel neues, wenn man schon andere Bücher gelesen hat die diesen Bereich betreffen.
Dennoch muss ich sagen, dass die Dialoge von diesem Schüler und Mystery normalerweise keine Fragen offen lassen. Der Schüler fragt nach ! Dadurch lassen sich schon eigene Fragen die man offen hätte beantworten.
Des weiteren gibt es noch viele zusätzliche Tipps und Ratschläge, die den weiteren Verlauf von Konversation, oder erneutem Treffen mit der Frau, beinhalten.
Sehr interessant zu lesen sind auch die Lebensausschnitte von Mystery wie zum Beispiel als er mit Lovedrop und Matador im Stripclub waren. Nur einer von einigen Lebensausschnitten. Hat mir persönlich gut gefallen.
Ich bin noch nicht ganz durch mit dem Lesen aber der Eindruck den ich bisher hatte hat mir sehr gefallen.
Ach ja bevor ich es vergesse... Das Buch ist komplett auf englisch. Englischkenntnisse wären sehr hifreich ! ;P
Oder einfach ein Wörterbuch danebenlegen und nachschlagen wenn man mal was nicht ganz versteht... aber dadurch wird die Zeit die man mit dem Lesen verbringt wohlmöglich verdoppelt xD
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He may very well be very awesome, and I'm sure he's a cool guy to be around, but this book is way too watered down, probably contains about 10 pages or so of useful information, and the rest describing Mystery's lavish lifestyle.
I give this book one star because I was looking for a book that would be instructional kind of like his last book, "The Mystery Method" which I found highly informative BUT very difficult to implement. It was just simply way too complicate (but worth the time to digest and memorize/understand).
Maybe this book tries to address the complexity of his last book, but instead it comes out as a dud as it doesn't teach enough.
In a sense, this book is kind of like "The Game" which you'll hear every guy who's read it ask you surreptitiously, "So... have you read the game?" The problem is that that book talked a lot about Neil's exploits too but lacked a lot on instruction. So why do I mention this? Because this book is basically that too.
Also, it seems that these books carry a lot of hype, and I noticed that "pickup artist" books/DVDs/etc. have a high amount of competition and each party arguing that they are correct/better and the other one is not. It is juvenile.
They have a lot of "wow" factor, but little in practical/"easy keep it simple and straightforward" advice and much of it you already probably know such as A) Be smiling B) Be confident C) Be Relaxed D) Create a Personal Connection. And other common sense things like dress well, groom yourself well, EXERCISE, eat well, go out often rather than staying addicted to the computer playing video games, being a loner, etc.
I'm coming to the conclusion that basically pickup isn't that difficult.
Basically, the whole ideology is to
A) When you see a girl that you like, you don't indicate interest in her (at least not right away), you treat her as a guy friend. That way she doesn't think that you're hitting on her, and when you're a girl who is hit on everyday you would definitely get tired of "How are you?s" and "You are so pretty." This is good advice.
B) If she's really attractive or has a high ego because of her beauty, you bring her down a little bit by indirectly commenting on her. For instance, if you say, "Nice necklace, it reminds me of the one my 80 year old Grandma wears!" --- you're giving a compliment but you're always subconsciously making her feel bad because you're comparing her tastes with an 80 year old Grandmas lol.
C) Once she starts getting interested in you, and starts seeing that you are different and that you are NOT sexually interested in her at first (even though you think she is gorgeous), you can talk with her, show your personality, escalate kino (that means subtle touching ex) on the shoulder, or grabbing her hand, hugging, etc) to develop comfort, etc.. The whole point though ISN'T to never display sexuality but rather don't appear attracted to her at first so as to make her think that she's not anything special. Once she sees you as someone who is better than the rest of the guys, then she should hopefully should vie for your attention.
Overall, "pickup" isn't mainly about scripted lines, scripted openers, etc., it's about IDEOLOGY and being aligned with that ideology. I think that pickup is more of an attitude more than anything else and this is basically what Mystery is saying.
So in any case, would I recommend this book? Definitely not. It's way too watered down and lacking in content but rather focuses too much about a successful and popular man boasting about his accomplishments. It's really annoying.
Some other things to note:
1) I would recommend his other book, "The Mystery Method" as that is pretty good and covers EVERYTHING that is in this book and more, but I would take the time to study it and take notes/memorize/understand that book. To get a better idea of that book you definitely to read it 2-3x and probably more to keep it fresh.
2) Ignore all the 5-star hype reviews that may be affiliated with the author or are probably just b.s. . If you notice on the day the book came out, there were a lot of suspicious 5 star reviews --- which makes you think how can someone review a book so soon when A) they probably didn't even read it yet and B) they didn't have a chance to use it enough.
3) Sell your computer (i'm in the process of selling mine), delete your video games, terminate your internet subscription, and cancel TV. If you want to get girls, your main problem is going out enough. Pickup is a game about numbers, which is something that Mystery is correct about --- the more girls that you encounter and interact with the better your odds are. If you need internet, use it at a friend's house, or probably more practically at your local library.
4) Stop killing kittens by looking at porn videos. Having a high sex drive will make you want to go out and get girls.
5) Workout, eat well, and dress well too. A good body will always turn heads. Being fat won't. This is truth.
6) KEEP PICKUP THEORY AND KNOWLEDGE SIMPLE AND DON'T OVERCOMPLICATE IT. One of the biggest problems with PICKUP THEORY is that if you are one who loves to absorb knowledge, you might want to read everything, watch everything, etc. But remember folks, this isn't a SCIENCE, this is an art --- it may or may not work on you --- and delivery is much more important than anything else. So the point I am making is that, once you've reached a comfortable level of theory, stop being obsessed with reading so much and just go out and practice. And sure you can learn how to bike without having biked before, or learning how to workout without having done it before, but no progress will EVER happen if you never go out and apply what you learned. And for many of you, the beginning will be the biggest hill to conquer, so never give up and work hard and continually refine yourself --- and be aware, you will fail multiple times, but that is okay, for each time you fail, you will learn a new valuable lesson and you will become a little more socially calibrated.
I felt that I had to give a verbal blowie here because this review is going to hurt me worse than it will hurt Mystery :) I had such such high hopes for this book. The Game was a phenomenal narrative story that I consider one of thee most important books I have ever read, however, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed was the book that put it all into place for me. Strauss opened my eyes and showed me it could be done, Mystery flat out told me how to do it in his 2007 book. Naturally when I had seen Mystery had a "New and Improved" (notice the snarky quotes) Mystery Method out my eyes I instantly loaded it up on my iPhone Kindle App.
If by "new and improved" ("laser") you mean the exact opposite, then yes. This book is very new and improved. But seriously, folks, this book is a bunch of old concepts and new nonsense wrapped up in over compensating and second hand embarrassing tripe. Mystery clearly used this book as a platform to bag on his detractors, haters and what-not in addition to establishing himself as the end all say all of pick up. I already like you, buddy. That's why I bought the book. I decided to make a drinking game: Every time he literally blurts out "I'm Mystery" you do a shot. I spent the first 3 chapters in the hospital and the next 6 in celebrity rehab with that dude from Grease.
Since most of Mystery's actual findings and PRACTICAL (notice the snarky caps-lock, more on that later) applications of seduction are worth hearing I knew I had to trudge on through the overcompensating DLV of a book to get to the diamonds. Not that I'm complaining; almost all books (sans Gladwell) are mostly filler material. This book was extra hard to finish, man-crush on Mystery aside. I did find my nuggets of pure gold, however, they are scarce and well buried with Mystery's self gratification.
Even without the written masturbation I had to cringe because it appeared that Mystery has abandoned his more scientific side of experimentation, observation, and evidence based empirical evidence and downgraded into more of "the secret" type nonsense.
Mystery is still the king of pickup and not because he told me so (once every other page). This book was either a well intended Mystery Method told in a really bad narrative or a rushed out sequel to get a product out at the peak of it's popularity. Either way I can only recommend this book just to see by chance there is something you don't already know after reading The Game, The Mystery Method or seen on the show. How Strauss let his friend put out this book is beyond me. Friends don't let friends...
Reading this book made me want to drill a hole in my head, I cannot exemplify just how terribly written this book was and to exacerbate the situation there is *almost* no useful knowledge in here (certainly nothing you could not find in a better book, or online). DO NOT BUY THIS PIECE OF TRASH. Oh, if only I believed in burning books.
I was not disappointed. Read it in a day, but this is the kind of book I'm going to refer to again and again for a while. There is too much here to really absorb at once.
The writing is better than the last one, which makes it flow a lot easier. Didn't take me long to get through it. The style is very similar to the Bible (yes, THE Bible) in that the lessons are taught via stories. The story is that of a group of pickup artists renting a two million dollar mansion in Miami and living it up. Entertaining, even if you're not into pickup.
Mystery's "Method" is four steps:
This book builds on the first one with ways to do all the the above. It also improves on the first one with a better, more organized outline and "just the meat" lists and techniques to follow.
Things like his "Top 10 List" are worth the price of the by book themselves. This is the type of book you'll want to review before going out. I plan to work through it by taking one section (or list) at a time, hitting the club, and really focusing on it. Doing this, you've literally got a year or more of material to work on. It's that packed.
There are lots of lessons here, all broken down into easy-to-follow steps. Lots of lists, lots of very specific info with "if she does this, you should do this" type of detail.
Those new to pickup will find the glossary helpful, since Mystery coins terms for his different techniques, which you may not know.
Other things I liked about this book:
- Lots of new gambits/scripts to use. Also some variations on gambits/approaches/openers you already know, which will help you keep things fresh, now that everybody has seen Mystery's VH1 show and is asking, "What movie is this from?!!" Thank god for this, since that stuff is killing pickup. Use this book to help you come up with something original. Lots of good ides here.
- Lots of exercises. As I already mentioned, you can use this entire book as a worksheet for going out and practicing, but if you're not that creative, have no fear because Mystery includes some very specific exercises you can use.
- Lots of guidelines, checklists, and "steps" to follow. Yes, there really is a "7 Habits of Highly Effective Pickup Artists" list. haha!
- A good list of negs.
If you're going to go out and put this stuff into action, you will love this book. He really breaks it down and it's much easier to understand than his previous book. There is a one-year followup of one of his students up lived with him in Miami, so that will help keep you motivated.
If you're not going to put it into action or have no interest in going to clubs/bars, your results may vary.
Excited to see what happens in the next few months of working with this material!
As long as you're willing to do a bit of work, I think this book would work well for beginners, but know it's not a magic formula and there is more to it than just pick up lines. If you really want to be successful at this, you'll also need to do some internal "mindset" work to rid yourself of the programming we all pickup from parents, religion, and society. For the mindset stuff, I recommend getting your hands on anything by David Deida and a for a female opinion on what females really want, Just F Me by Eve Kingsley.
But I will say this for it: IT WORKS. Even on straight ladies.
Pros of this books:
1)Easy to read
2)Concrete advice and techniques
3)Easy lists to tell you when and when NOT to use the techniques
4)Easy troubleshooting steps to improve your game
5)Scientifically verifiable anthropological and mammal information about social structure, value, and dominance.
6)Tips for overcoming shyness
7)Tips for getting over that 'one girl in high school'
8)Tips for reading the 'meanings behind the words' with women. (Very important.)
9)Solid ways to increase your social value and seem like an alpha male even when you're neither alpha nor male.
10)Tips to help avoid psycho chicks (Very useful)
1)Acronyms that really don't add to the content
2)Not designed with lesbians in mind (for the women reading this.)
3)Somewhat misogynistic, though Mystery insists it isn't
4)Follow this perfectly and you will get STALKED by beautiful women. (Not nearly as fun as it sounds.)
5)Designed for socially functional people. This will NOT work for people with Asperger's syndrome/Social Disphoria/Auditory Processing Disorder or any other major learning/social disorder that significantly impedes communication with other human beings.
Also, to the people who are basically complaining that Mystery is unsympathetic to people who are... well... broke, ugly, and full of self-pity... yeah. He isn't. No one is. But even if you are broke and ugly, if you can ditch the self pity, this book will work for you.
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