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Is love a game?
am 19. Januar 1999
This is a well written book. No doubt about that. But I doubt if this is the right book for anyone looking for a fulfilling and lasting relationship. The book emphasizes on the difference between the way men and women think, and advises the reader to play mind games. Although her claims are supported by scientific facts, one has to be aware that most of the technics she suggested are only useful to create temporary intimacy. Any lasting and trusting relationship is based on mutual understanding and support of each other. It's who you really are that eventually wins the love and trust of your partner. If one has to put on performance to get love, then that love won't last, trust me. One day, you'll be sicken tired of all this. So many people around us have found love by being who they are, why can't you? Ask your parents how they learnt to love and trust each other.
If you are young and just look to mess around, then this book might help. But if you want to find lifelong love, you should look somewhere else. I'm curious how many readers have found lasting loving relationship with the help of this book.
If you set out to play games, you can only lose. If this book doesn't help you develop healthy and positive attitude towards the opposite sex, then what would you expect to get from the opposite sex in the end ?
In that regard, I strongly recommend the book "10 foolish dating mistakes that men & women commit: And how to avoid them" by Lila Gruzen and Rebecca Sperber. That's the kind of book that deals with the essence of dating relationships. It's about how to better understand each other, not how to fool each other.
Stop buying into the "Men vs. Women" syndrome. Instead, look into your own dating habits and attitudes that sometimes ruin a potential relationship. Learn to develop a self-assured and supportive personality.
In the end, we all want to love and be loved, we don't want to fool and be fooled.