This is the BEST book I have read on raising boys. Biddulph writes in a clear, crisp voice making it easy for anyone to understand the fine art of being a male. He has made me realize how and why my husband and son are the same in some ways and very different in others. Girls are not ignored here, either. He compares and contrasts the two, so subtle differences are made just as obvious as the not-so-subtle ones. He takes time show why the two can act and/or react differently in the same situations. Everyone, especially teachers, should read this great book!
What a fabulous book! I thoroughly enjoyed this book and learnt a lot along the way. This book is interesting, thought-provoking, useful, inspiring, and very easy to read. With sections for parents, fathers, mothers, schools and communities there is something for everyone to learn about raising boys.
Steve Biddulf has written a number a books in the Australian/New Zealand context on Parenting. His words about Boys are simple and matter of fact. Boys will not grow up to be sound men without help. This help can only come from the input of sound Men [preferably dad]at critical times in a boys maturation. Mom's are very important but they can't teach a boy how to be a man, for that the boys need a safe, strong male to model. Steve Biddulf sets out to help Dad's and Mum's sort out, First - what does it really mean when we say 'boys will be boys'? Second - How can I assist, as a parent, in helping my son to become aware of his 'maleness' and then assisting him to become a sound, loving but not wimpy man. Third - he tackles the thorny issue of single mums raising a son, how does mum, who can't be a man, raise her son? First recognising she needs help, then sorting out what to do about it. His style is simple, funny and never patronising. He is pointing out a real problem and proposing from a wealth of clinical and parenting experience his matter of fact pathway through the minefield. I loved the book, though I didn't agree with everything init, it has helped me focus on how to plan my relationship with my son. If you get the chance to listen to him in the flesh take it he is very good.
Teaching at a boys' school and having raised two boys of my own, I found I kept saying "yes, that's what happened" or "doesn't that sound familiar" or "I've been saying that, in a different way, for years". The book is well written, clear, with good examples and stories. Most importantly, it lays out how to do and be the best for your sons.
Ein sehr wichtiges Buch für alle Eltern. Man kann spontan einfach reinlesen und bekommt die Experten-Tipps mit witzigen kleinen Cartoons. Außerdem sind alle anderen Bücher von Biddulph wirklich zu empfehlen.
Call for all parents: PLEASE READ THE BOOKS OF MR BIDDULPH.
Overall the book is worth the purchase. I got the most from the sections of the book on early childhood. I did disagree with many points about early adolesence in the way of handling homosexuality and pornography. But, what I disagreed with was a small portion of the book. I was enlightened by most of the book. I am a very busy mom. The writing style was conducive to my lifestyle.
We have a 5 year old son whom we quite agree is not ready for school yet compared to his niece of the same age which Steve attributes to his testosterone cycle. He can read very well but is just not ready to sit down to do writing especially going through with writing Chinese characters. He is full of beans even after school and simply wants to move around and have plenty of activities. Thoroughly enjoy reading this book and will be one that my wife and I will keep refering to every now and then to help him grow from boyhood to manhood.
Biddulph is brilliant in this book...good tips, very insightful, written with compassion and in simple English...as the father of a teenage son I appreciate a clear roadmap like this..Other books I've found great lately on the subject of raising boys include: Real Boys (Pollack), about the myths of boys and how to overcome them; Raising a Son, which also has great basic advice, and some very insightful chapters in the PC Dads Guide to Becoming a Computer Smart Parent (Ivey), which talks about raising a son in the computer age.
Steve Biddulph passed thru our city in a series of standing-room only lectures a couple of years back; his advice to parents, community and educators is invaluable; we have 3 sons and found him practical and positive; we were made to feel that our boys, while not 'little miss goodie 2 shoes', are perfectly normal; he also gave us the confidence to know when it is appropriate for Mum to let Dad take over, when to let the community and mentors to take over, etc. A great relief for Mums!