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Well written, interesting, and touching memoir
am 24. Februar 2012
Last year I caught a documentary about Williamsburg in New York City and Ms. Feldman was one of the people interviewed and presented. She grew up in a Hasidic community and left it in her early 20s. Since I am very interested in memoirs and fiction that deal with the process of breaking out of fundamentalist religious communities, I was looking forward to the publication of this memoir. It was worth the wait. The book held me captivated from the first pages.
First of all, Feldman tells a very interesting story. While she illustrates all of the restrictions that she had to live with every day of her life - and they are rather incredible for anybody not living in such a community - she never really speaks in a mean or disrespectful manner about the people she grew up with. In fact, she tries to understand where they are coming from and to see the good things her family gave her.
Yet she does not shy away from difficult topics. She talks about her mother who left her little daughter behind as she herself flew from the community and about her father who seems to have cognitive problems. She relates how this situation led to her being treated differently from other children and how she always felt like an outsider in her own community.
I imagine it can't be easy writing about these things. Yet Feldman digs even deeper into the stuff that nobody in this Hasidic community really wants to talk about: the sexual problems she and her husband encountered, which were mostly caused by the extreme sexual repression and, more precisely, the negative view of feminine sexuality in this community. I find her very open and courageous when she relates these issues.
Apart from this gripping coming-of-age story the story telling itself deserves mention: This is high quality writing. It is nothing spectacular - but that is exactly what makes it so good: Both the general outline and the language are absolutely convincing, the language flows well, it is never wordy, and it feels just right all the time. Feldman does not turn her memoirs into too much of a literary experiment. She relies on the power of her story.
A good choice.