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- Verlag: HarperCollins (26. Mai 2015)
- Sprache: Englisch
- ISBN-10: 1467676713
- ISBN-13: 978-1467676717
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The guy who wrote The Game and lived The Game searches for love and learns that it's way, way harder. And funnier * Time * [Strauss] charms us with confessions of his screwed-up childhood and the many idiotic beliefs and mistakes that have plagued him, then upsells us on the notion that we can be masters of the universe-and he can teach us how. Colour me seduced -- Laura Miller * Slate * The Truth is fantastic ... In the course of exorcising his pickup artist demons, Strauss learns and exposes the barriers to intimacy that so many of us are carrying around. If you've struggled with monogamy, or loved someone who has, this book is revelatory * Chicago Tribune * Maybe this man can teach me something after all -- Suzy Greaves * Psychologies * Pick-up pro Neil Strauss follows The Game with a new take on love and lust ... Might make you think twice before you right swipe, have your head turned or attempt to talk your girlfriend into a threesome * GQ * Praise for The Game: 'A narrative of daredevil sexuality * Guardian * Loving it! * Elle Magazine * Touching and witty * Time Out * The funniest book I have read this year -- Tony Parsons -- Dieser Text bezieht sich auf eine andere Ausgabe: Gebundene Ausgabe.
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Neil Strauss is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The Game and Rules of the Game. He is also the co-author of four previous bestsellers: How to Make Love Like a Porn Star (with Jenna Jameson), The Dirt (with Mötley Crüe), Don’t Try This At Home (with Dave Navarro), and The Long Hard Road Out of Hell (with Marilyn Manson), and the co-author of the satirical graphic novel How to Make Money Like a Porn Star (with Bernard Chang), which has been banned in Singapore. Under the alter ego “Style,” he achieved the distinction of becoming the world’s greatest pickup artist. Strauss lives in Los Angeles, CA.-- Dieser Text bezieht sich auf eine vergriffene oder nicht verfügbare Ausgabe dieses Titels.
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To me, this book has brought learning and insight, and has made me think like no other book in a long time.
Mature, insightful, seriously intimate and as always, pretty crazy.
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With lashings of hedonism and debauchery thrown in for good measure, The Truth is based on Strauss’ mission to discover whether monogamy, faithfulness, and commitment make sense in the modern world. The book is as high spirited as you might expect from someone who wrote The Game, and delves into the underpinnings of sex, relationships and their effect on life, love, and family.
Straddling the line between damning expose and redemption story, there are many times Strauss stares lustfully at self-annihilation. But to its credit, The Truth is not another preachy, earnest treatise on the dangers of sex, nor is it a sentimental journey to 12-step redemption. There have certainly been enough of those. Rather this is a study in how men and women relate to each other, and what it truly means to be in relationship with somebody. Like all the best books, as Strauss swerves between libertine and committed partner, we are simultaneously wincing and somehow wishing we were in the middle of it.
Instead, what you get is a deep exploration of why he ever felt like he needed pickup in the first place. What drives a person to feel like they have to seek "love" and approval from dozens, hundreds, thousands of other people? Why is it, that when you can supposedly seduce any person in the world into liking you, you still don't like yourself?
The book starts with the author cheating on his girlfriend. He acknowledges that he's scum and checks in to a sex addiction clinic. This first part of the book, you can't wait for him to be taken down a peg, because despite knowing he messed up and genuinely wanting to change...he is resistant and snarky, lecturing people on why they should be able to have their cake and eat it too.
Don't worry, he gets his.
After having his world totally obliterated by an insight he receives in therapy....he retreats further into his own justifications and ideas. He "tries" for several months to change his way of thinking, but the heavy handed shaming and brainwashing of the therapy and approach he is given keeps him from making any real progress at all.
So instead, he does what any internationally known pickup artist would do when faced with their own insecurities and lack of satisfaction in life.
He starts a harem.
And tries swinging,
And a commune,
All the kind of misadventures that people who glorified the Game and think more lovers=more happiness are probably waiting for.
And maybe it would have worked out...if he had been seeking these relationships for healthy reasons.
The Truth is not platitudes. It is not an endorsement for polyamory or monogamy. The Truth is an honest and genuine exploration of one man's desperate attempt to change his programming and issues to be able to have a healthy relationship with another person (or persons).
I truly believe that the things I learned from this book, and the steps it encouraged me to take, will change my relationship with my partner forever.
“I fear all Greeks, even those bearing gifts”
-Vergil, the Aeneid
This book is interesting mostly as a character study of its author, Neil Strauss. I read The Game and found fascinating the extent to which he craved respect and admiration from others, and to feel superior to them. The whole book was an exercise in power, in letting everyone know that though he wasn’t good-looking, he was smart enough to manipulate women into sleeping with him anyway, cool enough to socialize with celebrities without being star struck, and talented enough to write for influential publications like the NY Times.
In this book, too, there is no doubt that Strauss is a master manipulator. He writes about feeling dorky, or ashamed, inviting our sympathy and drawing us into the story, making us care. Then he “shows” us that he’s actually not a dork by having lots of threesomes with women, because most people think that having a threesome in itself makes you cool. But now he’s inside our heads, the place he most longs to be – in control of our thoughts and emotions (or so he hopes).
So one of the things about this book is that it is structured like Homer’s Odyssey. Though Strauss mentions Odysseus and James Joyce’s Ulysses, he never explicitly communicates that he actually models the book on the epic poem itself – this is because he wants to feel smarter and more cultured than the people reading his book – it’s his own little private joke on us, to make him feel powerful. And I suppose he thinks that he’s impressing those of us who do get the allusions (witches and guides and siren songs for example) and cute little references (he names his dog Hercules).
The Odyssey was a great poem, but it was also an incredibly misogynistic one, and one of its functions was to reaffirm and perpetuate the idea that women are objects fulfilling different roles in a man’s life – dutiful wife, seductive but deadly sorceress, nymphomaniac, ball-busting bitch. Though Strauss claims to come to the conclusion that women should be viewed differently today, the way he writes about the women in his book treats them in pretty much the same way that Homer did millennia ago. Use, discard, repeat. I looked up photos of him and his wife, and it’s clear he hasn’t broken this pattern with her. She’s 15-20 years his junior, clearly less educated than he is, a multiple plastic surgery victim, with a heavily made-up, injected face. She is the picture of American female insecurity. In a picture I saw of them together, he stands above her on a staircase, dressed like some hipster professor, his hand on her body in a proprietary way. She wears – I kid you not – little kid sneakers with sloppily tied laces, cutoff shorts, and a sweatshirt with an ice-cream cone print. The pouty look on her face thinly disguises her fear and insecurity. Equals, yeah.
Something I remember from Agatha Christie books is Miss Marple’s simple but astute insight that a major problem with most people’s way of thinking is that they just believe everything that they’re told. In reality, sometimes what others say is true, but more often than we might guess, it’s not; either because they’re mistaken or simply because they are making it up. Much of “The Truth” is actually not the truth, it’s words that Strauss put together in order to elicit a certain reaction from his readers. To give just one example, when he forms his “harem” of three women (using that word is another attempt to impress us) he would have us believe that the women have never met before or even spoken or emailed each other. Yet it makes no sense that they wouldn’t have communicated at all before moving into a house together – it’s simply unbelievable. One of the women is very smart and critical, yet he has her regularly fighting with the others for the privilege of sitting next to him in the front seat like a child. I don’t think this happened, it’s simply too out of character for Veronika – or if it did, then his depiction of her is inaccurate. And then he would have us believe that it is only after the failure of the harem experiment did it dawn on him that it wasn’t fair of him to expect them not to have sex with other men while he is able to sleep with other women. Of course it’s not fair, and I kept waiting for him to address it during that section, but he pretends that it didn’t even occur to him until later when he has some big epiphany. Is the title of the book another of Strauss’ private jokes at our expense? In other words, is he merely a narcissist, or is he a full-on sociopath? I don’t know. But there are dozens of times in the book where he is clearly being disingenuous, as anyone with some critical thinking skills can perceive.
Going back to the Odyssey: Of all the Greek characters fighting the Trojan War, Odysseus was the smart one. Not muscled like Achilles or powerful like Agamemnon, but clever and conniving. He uses the power of his words and his wit to get what he wants. This is how Strauss would like to see himself. In his pathology, the way he feels worthy and powerful is by convincing others that he is smarter and cooler than everyone else. This is why he is constantly making little mean comments about people – it reminded me of the negging thing from The Game. Though he claims to be a new, wise person by the end of the book, his methods are the same as ever.
There are so many other things I noticed, like the fact that he never mentions the enormous role money and power play in relationships between men and women. Instead, he has an endless string of epiphanies and clichés that he unloads on us for 400 pages. He is the oh-so-wise dispenser of valuable advice that will blow our minds and change our lives for the better. But he’s no Homer, no Joyce.
Odysseus created the Trojan horse, which the gullible Trojans happily brought inside their city walls. Strauss has this little puppy, which he wants you to swallow hook, line, and sinker. No longer content with just having power over the poor saps who loved The Game and naïve girls at bars, now he craves the admiration of the educated. He’s shed his purple-on-purple ensembles and now wears glasses and sweaters – smart people clothes. I suppose his frenetically working mind will never truly be satisfied, even if he does fool some “intellectuals” out there. I wonder what he’ll come up with next. OK this was really long but I feel better now.
Neil's jump into what the meaning of relationships and what the truth is behind them is a story worth investing into.
Thank you for your incredible work Neil, Thank you for everything.
Reading of Neil's struggle, and his running after distractions, reminded me so much of her angst.
So who does this kind of thing, that can be the hardest on the other people in their lives? Someone who is searching for their own answer, and using a limited thinking learned maybe in high school. It does not look pretty in a 57 year old adult. Without what you need within, you look for the affirmation from others, maybe keeping a numerical tally that to you equals success. You hide in fantasy. You surround yourself with the best 'stage scenery' that you can find. Psychologists have names for this, but it is really a lack of inner rescources that has a person groping like this.
This was years ago, but I will send a copy of this to her, and hope that it can lead her to something better.