Grogan's memoir is one of the best I've read in a long time. On one level it's about growing up Catholic and balancing conflicting family values. But mostly it's such a good read that I'd recommend Longest Trip Home to any fan of the memoir genre.
The first part of the book takes us through Grogan's traditional Catholic upbringing: big family, loving parents, Catholic schools. Memoir readers will recognize familiar themes, such as the cruel Catholic schools. But Grogan adds his own touches. I've always wondered if altar boys really sipped the wine and Grogan tells us how it's done. We also meet Shaun, the Grogan family dog, who earned the nickname "Saint Shaun" for good behavior. Readers can speculate on how Shaun influenced Grogan's response to the famous Marley.
Grogan's parents displayed unusual understanding and sensitivity. Realizing John was a miserable misfit in Catholic high school, they allowed him to transfer to public school, where he discovered journalism and lowered his GPA.
Although the first half offers a good read, Grogan's real story begins when he moves in with Jenny, the woman who was to become his wife. Grogan's parents demonstrate the powers of deep denial. Assuming their thirty-year-old son has lived a chaste life, they write long anguished letters.
Grogan writes unsparingly yet lightly of his own struggle to be his own person yet honor his parents' beliefs. He describes the way his contemporaries relate to their religion as "cultural Catholics" and "cafeteria Catholics," both styles rejected firmly by his parents. As his children grow up, Grogan and his wife Jenny compromise -- but only up to a point. I found myself cheering for Jenny, who brought reason and common sense to many tense situations.
In the last pages of the book, Grogan shares his experiences of his father's last days. He shares memories with siblings, videotapes his father and tries to be supportive through medical procedures that seemed cruel and senseless to me. Why put an elderly man through chemotherapy and a final stint in the ICU?
Grogan doesn't comment. Indeed, he rarely analyzes, presenting a model of the "show don't tell" school of writing. But at the very end, he makes an unusual new friend. And he suggests, in a light-hearted way, that his father continues to look out for him.
That's the real gift of this book: It's a mixture of humor, nostalgia, sadness, and understanding. And of course he's a very good writer -- so good you don't notice till you're done.