There was a time that I would have given this book four stars. Not anymore.
Thanks to this book, along with a "helpful" friend who insisted that my periodic nightmares indicated that I MUST have been abused, I went through several years in which I was convinced that I'd been sexually abused and had repressed the memories: I had nightmares, panic attacks, strange sensations that I considered body memories, the works. The thing is, this book will tell you that if you have the SLIGHTEST SUSPICION that you were abused, if it's ever even crossed your mind, that means that you were. Think about that for a minute: maybe _you_ really were abused, but do you really think that there is anyone out there that doesn't suffer from _some_ of the symptoms they mention?
A couple months ago, I got curious about the proponents of False Memory Syndrome and looked into it. While I was in the midst of my "recovery," I viewed the FMS folks as self-evidently a bunch of evil perps, etc. -- I remember a newspaper editorial that upset me for weeks. But that was a long time ago now, and so I was curious.
I found a book with some stories from "Retractors" -- people who recovered memories through the exercises in this book, but later concluded they were false. The thing that struck me overwhelmingly was how closely my experienced paralleled that of those women. Like them, I'd started out with some problems, and welcomed an explanation for them -- but once I picked up "Courage to Heal" and entered therapy, I just felt worse, and worse, and worse, and worse.
"The Courage to Heal" likes to portray recovery as a tunnel: I remember the phrase "there's no way out but through" being tossed around a lot. But the therapy this book offers isn't a tunnel, it's a cave. Like the retractors whose stories I read, I started to feel better only when I left therapy, stopped reading "Courage to Heal," and broke out of the self-absorbed sinkhole I'd fallen into.
If you take a perfectly healthy adult and have them focus all day, every day, on whether they have a headache; if you tell them repeatedly that their headaches are inevitable; if you tell them that once the headache starts it's going to be terrible, but that's OK, because it's normal; if you have them keep a journal on how their head feels; anyone will develop a headache.
Similarly, people who follow the advice in this book are going to end up having nightmares and panic attacks, whether these have any basis in real experiences or not.
Please, please, if you've been caught in this web, check out "Victims of Memory" by Mark Pendergrast, to read the stories of the retractors if nothing else. You have nothing to lose by reading what we have to say except a few minutes of your time.