I was reading this book as a way to understand my boys, but found new personal insights. Then the killings at Littleton Colorado occurred. As a father, and trained as a pediatrician, I find the "culture of cruelty" to be a distirbing influence on our children. Kindlon and Thompson, demostrate the effects the "culture of cruelty" has on individual boys. It is not hard to imagine the effect it had on those two boys. Without the language to express their emotions they resorted to the language taught by computer games, television and destructive music. The development of "emotional literacy" is a lifelong process, in Raising Cain, the authors explore the roles of various influences. Mothers have a special role in the early years as well developed in the chapter on mothers and sons. In the adolscent years this changes. The effect of a mother on the issues of new interpersonal and physical relationships is not explored in the chapter on "Romancing the Stone". As a son, I found reading the chapter on "Fathers and Sons: A Legacy of Desire and Distance" introspective. In reading I was looking at my relationships with my sons and with my father. Who should read this book? Educators, mental health professionals, politicians, parents and boys should all be encouraged to read and explore the issues brought up by "Raising Cain". Perhaps if we took the issue of our son's emotional life as seriously as we take interscholastic sports events like Jonesboro and Littleton will not occur.