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Be warned: In many ways this is a terrifying book. It deals with a subject--violence against children--that most of us never want to consider. But, as Gavin de Becker stresses, such situations, though rare, can occur, so all parents must deal with the facts in order to protect their children properly. De Becker's aim is to create awareness of potential dangers and provide parents with the knowledge necessary for prevention and control. As he emphatically states in Protecting the Gift, much of this knowledge is already hard-wired in the form of intuition: "This natural ability is deep, brilliant, powerful. Nature's greatest accomplishment, the human brain, is stunningly efficient when its host is at risk, but when one's child is at risk, it moves to a whole new level, one we can justifiably call miraculous." The trick, he stresses, is trusting and acting on intuition.

In this valuable, even necessary, book, he shatters many myths about the typical profiles of regular offenders and the prevalence of such problems as sexual abuse and kidnapping. He also deconstructs the wisdom of traditional maxims such as "Never talk to strangers" and "If you are ever lost, go to a policeman." Without offering a compendium of every conceivable danger, he identifies warning signals and real risks that are often easy to spot once you know what to look for. He offers practical advice on recognizing signs of sexual abuse, choosing a baby sitter or nanny, how to prepare kids for walking to school alone, and how to teach children about potential risks without making them afraid to venture out of the house. And he continually stresses that denial and ignoring intuition are the biggest mistakes that parents make in protecting their kids from those that mean them harm. Well written and infinitely informative, Protecting the Gift affords parents more confidence and less reason for unnecessary worry. --Shawn Carkonen -- Dieser Text bezieht sich auf eine andere Ausgabe: Gebundene Ausgabe .

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In De Becker's well-received first book on anticipating, avoiding, and preventing personal violence, he wrote about The Gift of Fear (1997) and encouraged regarding fearful feelings as warnings to be heeded rather than rationalized away. In this book, he still encourages that practice and still valorizes intuition as the reliable matrix out of which fear arises. The gift of this book's title is not, however, an intangible emotion, but one's very tangible children. After opening chapters on intuition, worry--which he thinks is more distracting than useful--and the ingratiating tactics of child abductors and molesters, De Becker turns to specific aspects of protecting children. When children should talk to strangers, how to let children cooperate in their own protection as they grow, hiring baby-sitters, choosing safe day-care, guarding against pedophiles, ensuring safety at school, helping teenage girls deal with boys, dealing with boys and guns, spotting violence-prone boys' friendships, and intervening in intrafamilial violence--each gets a very cogent, accessible chapter's attention. Certain truths, borne out by statistics, are stated repeatedly: almost 100 percent of child molesters are heterosexual men; the preponderance of molestation is committed by family members and close friends; and boys and men are exponentially more likely to be violent than girls and women. Although he uses plenty of sobering and sometimes tragic true stories as springboards for teaching, De Becker avoids fearmongering and paranoia, pointing out that humans are the most successful species we know at raising offspring safely to maturity. This is top-drawer child-rearing stuff. Ray Olson -- Dieser Text bezieht sich auf eine andere Ausgabe: Gebundene Ausgabe .

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A MUST HAVE FOR PARENTS 15. Juli 2000

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This is the best book I have read about protecting our children. It gives you common sense understanding. As adults we don't always listen to our "little voice", but we need to start again, and after reading this book you will! BUY IT if you love your children and want to keep them safe. BUY IT if you know someone who loves their children and wants to keep them safe. It is a great book to buy as a baby shower gift. BUY IT!

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Great for parents with all age's of children 14. Juli 2000

The number one lesson I got from this book is how to help your child develope their own istincts about people. As the parent of a four year old that never meets a stranger I was always worried he'd be talking to the wrong person at the park. But now I know instead of keeping him from interacting with anyone I don't know, I should help him develope the instinctive feeling for himself of who is nice, who makes you feel uncomfortable, things like that that will be valuable to him whenever I'm not there.

Many of the examples in the book are frightening, but also realistic, in fact the stranger lurking in the park is far less common than I thought. There is a lot of information about judging people like step-fathers, coaches, neighbors that will open your eyes. But instead of being more paranoid and fearful for my sons, I feel that I can control alot of things logically, and teach them to do the same when they are ready. A great book for all parents, whether you have boys or girls or toddlers or teenagers.

Wonderful Wonderful Wonderful! A Must Have! 15. Juni 2000

Von Christine Connor

Every Mother and Father should have a copy of this book. I read this book with a pencil in hand, marking up so many important points! This will become my new baby shower, birthday gift!

For all parents with children of all ages

Gavin de Becker writes an eye opening book about how parents need to be more involved in the safety of their children. I have always considered myself a diligent parent. Lesen Sie weiter...

Ver�ffentlicht am 20. Mai 2000 von Michael LaDeau

Protecting The Gift

What a masterpiece! A must read for EVERY female and EVERY parent. Gavin De Becker's writing flows easily and is very compelling. Lesen Sie weiter...

Am 20. Januar 2000 ver�ffentlicht

Practical Advice

Gavin de Becker gives practical advice for protecting children from abduction and sexual abuse. For parents oblivious to the threats out there, it will open their eyes. Lesen Sie weiter...

Ver�ffentlicht am 10. Januar 2000 von "javert33"

Real world advice

This book should be required reading for every parent in America. De Becker gives loads of superb, real world advice that can save lives. Lesen Sie weiter...

Ver�ffentlicht am 1. Januar 2000 von R. Sayre

Parents need to read this book!

This is a terrific book. It gives parents a clear set of skills that they need to impart to their children in order to help keep them safe from predators. Lesen Sie weiter...

Am 27. Dezember 1999 ver�ffentlicht

An Excellant Read for Parents

I received this book as a gift, never having heard of it or the author before. I began to read it but was concerned that some of the information might make me paranoid. Lesen Sie weiter...

Am 23. Dezember 1999 ver�ffentlicht

I really recommend this book!

My one diappointment with this book was that so many of the anecdotes were straight out of his first book, THE GIFT OF FEAR. Lesen Sie weiter...

Am 16. November 1999 ver�ffentlicht

Some good advice mixed with odd political opinions

Practically from birth, children are told to look for police when they are in danger. de Becker suggests that frightened kids in public places instead seek help from the nearest... Lesen Sie weiter...

Ver�ffentlicht am 6. November 1999 von G. Mitchell

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