I have been an avid reader of self-improvement books for the past twenty years but I always felt that something was missing until I read Optimal Thinking. This book is revolutionary. It takes you above the flawed "think positive" mindset into a simple, realistic style of thinking that provides you with the best chance of achieving everything you need and want. I was fascinated by the examples of how people make the most of everyday situations with Optimal Thinking.
The book is divided into three sections. The first section, "Help Yourself to Optimal Thinking" begins with a quiz to rate how much of your thinking is in your best interest. You then learn about the advantages and disadvantages of negative and positive thinking. The author explains five shortcomings of positive thinking, and shows you how to overcome them. She then describes Optimal Thinking, provides examples of Optimal Thinkers who have shaped the world throughout history, and offers simple roadmaps to make the best choice in simple and complex situations. You then learn how to use Optimal Thinking consistently to design and live your best life. I was excited by this section. I really resonated with the information on the core beliefs which sabotage our best interests and motivate us to settle for second best, especially "I don't deserve the best in life". I made it my business to do the exercise to overcome this culprit.
The second section, "Optimize Yourself" begins with a quiz to examine whether your self-esteem, purpose and goals support your best interests. You learn to recognize and embrace your suboptimal inner voices and optimize them. This is what loving yourself is all about. You also take an inventory of your assets and liabilities and determine which actions will be most effective in optimizing your self-esteem. You then visualize your best self, define your ultimate purpose and create your best roadmap to achieve your supreme goals.
My favorite chapter in the second section is "Optimize Your Feelings." Disturbing emotions are called "optimization signals" and you are given an incredibly simple roadmap to understand and master them. You are also provided with optimal questions to understand and resolve unpleasant emotions such as helplessness, anxiety, anger, guilt, loneliness, hurt, grief, and envy. I have to admit that since I have been using these optimal questions, I don't need anyone to help me sort out my feelings. I am comfortable and confident that I can take the best possible care of myself.
The third section, "Optimize Others" begins with a quiz to determine where your personal and business relationships support your best interests. The author states that "The purpose of relationships is simply to be your best self, regardless of the circumstances." You explore your obstacles to optimal communication, and how to make best use of non-verbal and verbal signals to overcome these obstacles. My favorite roadmap here is about setting boundaries and minimizing unwanted behaviors.
The last chapter describes an optimal paradigm for the workplace. The positive thinking paradigm is compared with the optimal paridigm, and is obviously suboptimal. You just can't walk away from adopting this realistic optimal paradigm. You realize that you can't function at your peak when you think suboptimally, and every time you think suboptimally you compromise productivity, profitability and your well-being. And you can only bring out the best from others, when you use Optimal Thinking.
What I like most about this book is that suboptimal thinking readers, authors and enthusiasts are always respected by this author, who recognizes all forms of thinking (even negative thinking) as valuable feedback. Dr. Glickman believes that it is unrealistic to expect to think optimally all of the time but it is in our best interest to think optimally as often as possible.
This book is for business and community leaders, coaches, executives, students, homemakers and anyone who wants to live their best life. Do not miss one page of this book!