This book looks gorgeous and its effect on my daughter has been AMAZING! She loved "Dateable" (by Hayley) so this book was an easy purchase for me.
First off, this book is not for dealing with physical bullying, rather, for verbal meanness. This is not a book to help prevent (or even understand Columbine.) Hayley DiMarco tackles the all too common "everyday mean", mean that is just written off as being ingrained into the catty female culture. Hayley gives refreshing counter-culture advice, one that potentially makes peace and wins over enemies while teaching a valuable lesson that the world doesn't revolve around "me" and my "rights".
While a few people might have a pessimistic view of Hayley's out of mainstream methods (she discourages confrontations and the whole "how did that make you feel?" encounter and encourages girls to not take themselves so seriously and focus on higher things), I found the advice highly insightful coming from a woman who was scarred by mean girls in high school all the way through through corporate America. She talks about having all guy friends as a result and rediscovering how she had to "relearn" how to be friends with women.
The last thing you feel like after reading the book is that of a victim. This book gives plenty of practical advice for teen girls dealing with mean, and a bigger spiritual perspective to grow on.
Highly recommended for the teen girl in your life that is open to the concept that life is bigger than just her. If she needs the world to revolve around her, she's probably going to come up empty and still searching for someone else to blame after reading this book (unless she has an epiphany!)
Every teen girl should have a chance to read it. Some of the greatest spiritual figures in history have lived by a similar walk that how you treat people matters more than how they treat you. This message is lost on the cynical. My teen daughter read this book hoping to find help with her mean girl problem and discovered the ways she was encouraging or even being mean. The changes in her have been simply amazing! A must read!!