am 30. April 2013
I found out about the author and this book via TED talks. I recommend watching it, before buying the book, just so you know whether or not this is for you.
Esther Perel talks about the power of imagination, disguise and words in connection with sex and desire. She confirms the old "Distance makes the heart grow fonder" by suggesting to create emotional distance in order to stay interesting and desirable for the partner. Most of what she writes is common sense - in my opinion.
Still, most couple will probably find something that will work for them. What might be true for everyone is opening up, being honest. Not just with your partner, but also with yourself. Don't sweep your feelings and fantasies under the carpet of everyday interaction.
Why 4 stars instead of 5?
After reading the book one might think that sex is the number one priority of every human being. I really hope the human race is not that hedonistic. After all, there are still other aspects of life.
am 18. Juni 2015
Esther Perel's book does a good job of turning some fundamental ideas about relationships and relationship success on their head. I became aware of her via a TED talk that she gave recently about infidelity. Great talk, and that led me to buy this book. Her advice advocates that two people in a relationship must be allowed to maintain their autonomy and a bit of mystery BOTH if they want to be individually satisfied and if they want to continue to find each other attractive. She also gives many examples of patients from all different walks of life and all different ages so I can imagine that this book would be interesting to a very large audience. Really a must read for anyone who has been married / in a long-term relationship for more than 2 years and finds themselves moving away from the " head over heels in love" stage and into the "mature love" stage. She really clues you in to how relationships can happily exist long-term, and her answers are not necessarily those that I expected.
am 17. Oktober 2015
Eigentlich wird der Titel meines Erachtens dem Buch nicht gerecht, denn Perel hat einen eher Ganzheitlichen Ansatz der Intimität, sie bettet das rein Körperliche in den gesamten Kontext des Werdegangs und der Persönlichkeit. Am besten einfach selbst lesen, das ist es wirklich wert!!!