Okay, I have to be honest I have read this both several times. For one reason i enjoyed it and secondly the character of fredda and her love hate relationship with her mother.
Although McMillan entitled the book "Moma" freda is clearly the focus. However, I did clearly understand Moma (Mildred Peacock). Mildred a woman surround by a town and time where there was little opportunity offered to a woman of color, especially one with five children. Did what she had to, in order to survive. Especially in light the fact she was the a survivor of spousal abuse. Okay, Mildred was no nun, let's face it she used everyman that took a fancy to her and justified every mistake. But her redeeming quality is she did want more for her children. I mean really could she have been worse then "scarlet o'hara"? (I think not)
This book was Terry McMillian's first attempt. I thought it showed more promise then most available now. Oh, let's get it straight I am not a fan of Terry. But, Moma reminded me of so many LOUD good intentioned Sitahs (mothers) raising kids in the hood during my childhood, placing one face on her was almost impossible.
Realistic? yes, I knew Mildred. Reality? when the moral of the story is "life's tough" and "Sometimes, you hurt the one's you love" and even (and especially in the case of Money, Mildred's wayward son) "It's never to late to change"...I'll ask you which of that isn't true in life, or in the book?
As to the many who feel this book doesn't represent "us" (whether the us are blk woman, single parents or whatever). Please let us stop trying to dismiss the ugly as though it doesn't exsist of course it. shoot, I can look out the window and point mildred out (smile).