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One of the best ways to live a vibrant life is to stay closely connected to death, according to Buddhist teacher Judith Lief in
Making Friends with Death. Drawing heavily from
The Tibetan Book of the Dead, Lief specializes in interpreting the paradoxical Buddhist teachings surrounding death, making them understandable to Western sensibility. In fact, she modeled her cleanly written book after her highly popular course "The Psychology of Birth and Death" at the Naropa Institute in Boulder, Colorado, starting with theory, then meditation practice, then practical application.
In the opening section, Lief's insights are plentiful, showing readers how we all experience daily reminders of birth and death in the form of routine transitions, or helping readers examine the ways they hold death at a distance either though false reverence or media-driven numbness. At the end of every chapter, she offers contemplative exercises, such as pondering the mystery of birth and death or paying attention to one's breath and noticing the turning point between inhale and exhale. When she moves into the middle section on "Mindfulness Meditation," her teaching experience shines through as she explains how to understand and then meditate upon the Buddhist virtues of simplicity, acceptance, kindness, and compassion. In the final chapters, she shows how the theory and meditation can be applied toward taking care of someone who is dying. But don't be misled--this is really a book for everyone who wants to be more fully immersed in living, not just those who are tending the terminally ill. As Lief points out, "cultivating an awareness of death is at the same time cultivating an awareness of life. We are reconnecting with the spirit of actually living a life." --Gail Hudson
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"Peppered with useful and startling meditations as well as wise reminders, this is a thoughtful approach to a difficult aspect of living."—
NAPRA Review "Filled with meaningful examples of real people facing real problems. It provides us with the essential guideposts for embarking on the journey of life and the journey beyond."—
Journal of Hospice and Palliative Nursing "A manual on how to die, how to relate to dying and death, how to open up to the stages beyond death. Lief's book is also a weave of stories, insights, advice, Buddhism and humor."—
Shambhala Sun "Whether you will die tomorrow or fifty years from now, you need to read this book."—Bernie Glassman
"A seasoned caregiver who walks the neophyte through the extending of one's self to another, Lief presents the issues and common difficulties
at hand. She emphasizes the importance of attention to details, but centers on knowing what each patient wants for her or his situation. This defines effective compassion."—Florence Wald, M.N., FA.A.N., a founder of the first hospice in the United States
"Lief conveys the profound core of the teachings of Buddhism so that anyone can hear and understand. She shows us that in the end, it
is kindness, compassion, and mindful attention that matter, and teaches us the simple skill of just being—in all its rawness, love, and pain—with those who are dying."—Marilyn Webb, author of
The Good Death: The New American Search to Reshape the End of Life