Among other questions, Susan Jeffers, PhD, answers the age old question, "What Does Real Love Really Look Like?" in her book The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love. Can you answer the question? The answer may not be what you expect, and the answer is well worth reading.
Through examples of couples she interviews, Jeffers shows us how her advice on how to correct love related problems can work. Some of her advice is hard to swallow, however. Jeffers tells us that many of our problems with others whom we love could be solved if we hold up a mirror and take a good hard look at ourselves.
"Now that you are coming to the realization that you are powerful and loving and have nothing to fear," Jeffers, says, "I invite you to use your power and love in a creative and exciting way. And that is to work toward improving your relationship (or finding one) all by yourself," she counsels.
All by myself, I can hear you asking. What about him/her?
There in lies Jeffers' secret to a happy, successful relationship. Spend your energy, time and effort fixing yourself and taking care of yourself, not worrying about what needs to be fixed or what is wrong with your spouse. And that is what makes her advice hard to follow. You may have to be silent, giving, loving and responsible when your mate isn't any of those things.
To help overcome the possible obstacles in following her advice, Jeffers lists and discusses "Love Lessons" that include:
*Expanding your words of love one week at a time.
*Talk beautifully about your mate in the company of others.
*Be who you want your partner to be.
*Make time.
*Become a romantic.
*Appreciate the little things.
*Focus on abundance.
*Remember to have patience.
Along with listing these golden rules, she tells readers how to achieve results by practicing them.
Lessons in compassion, how to find your "Higher Self," and how to give to get what you want in life area bundant in this volume. Jeffers' suggestions are doable and reading the book certainly makes one stop to think about his or her responsibility as far as the success or failure of a relationship.
The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love is a book certainly worth looking into.