The Ethical Slut is an astonishingly good book. In fact, I'm going to have to really work hard to find anything to criticize, so before I do, rush out and buy it!
The basic message of the book is that love and sexual pleasure are Good Things, and that it is possible to ethically, sanely, increase the amount of love and pleasure in your life. To that end, the focus of the book is on polyamory/multiple consensual relationships/open marriage/swinging. However, the book is *so* good about how to fully open, express and enjoy your sexuality that I often found myself wishing that it *wasn't* a polyamory book -- its sex-positive message is more far-reaching than any particular lovestyle(s).
Easton & Liszt offer common sense, experience, humor, how-to's, how-not-to's in a clear, no-nonsense style. Advise is practical, sane, fun and peppered with lots & lots of real life examples that are sometimes joyous, sometimes sad, and once in a while pretty darn hot. All the important stuff is covered: Communication, boundaries, negotiating "the rules," jealousy, sexual inhibitions, sexual orientation, group sex, privacy, etc. etc. And at *no* point did I shake my head in disgust!
Okay, I said there was a criticism, and there is (just one). This is yet another Northern California Ecotopia book. I am so *sick* of all information about polyamory coming from there and there alone. I sometimes
want to stand on a rooftop and scream "I'm a Nice Jewish Girl from New Jersey and I Mess Around!!" That's right folks, polyamory is *not* stopped at California's borders and driven back in.
But, until *this* Nice Jewish Girl from New Jersey Who Messes Around writes a book on polyamory, The Ethical Slut is hands-down the best there is. Read it yourself, and give it to a friend. You could even buy the T-shirt and wear it in public.