I was looking forward to reading this book. I had heard McCloskey speak on Nat. P.Radio, have seen a couple of videos on transsexuals at a film festival and am interested in identity issues. This book was a tremendous disappointment. It's irritatingly written, often in the third person, with the author's observations on her observations in bold-face type. Even worse than the style is what she has to say. Or, better, what she actually says. I, a female all my life, couldn't believe all the stereotypes, cliches. If ever there could be meaningful I-was-there type of observations about the differences or similarities between male and female, a trans-gender person could be/should be the one to make those observations. And McCloskey, from her economics book writing and teaching, would seem to be the good writer of that not-ordinary transition.Instead, there is a huge amount of drivel. She seems to cry at the drop of a hankie, and I'd be wiling to bet she carries hankies - and says all women do while men don't. That's not my observation or that of friends. In brief, if you arrived here from outer space and read this book, you'd believe all men are warlike, conflict lovers and all women are simpering, feeling sweet conflict resolvers. Her fixation on clothes and makeup is stunning and pathetic. Perhaps it is understandable, although I think until a MtoF transsexual is comfortable wearing jeans, she won't truly seem like a 20th-21st c. woman! but such descriptions do not a good book make. There's every bathroom-reading Ladies Home Journal/Readers Digest cliche about men and women you can imagine here. Her editor should have done *a lot* more work!What a disappointment because McCloskey has an important story to tell --- and she was treated abysmally by her family who are but shadows in this book (interesting that a reading of this book suggests that four of the coldest, cruelest are her ex-wife, sister, son, and perhaps daughter) and by some of the medical/psychiatric profession. She could have written a book that helped others and shown the light on an important and heart-rending personal transition. That is not this book. I am glad I got it at the library and spent my money here on Amazon on other books.