- Verlag: Success Motivational Inst (Juni 1987)
- Sprache: Englisch
- ISBN-10: 0898110270
- ISBN-13: 978-0898110272
- Größe und/oder Gewicht: 1,9 x 7,6 x 10,8 cm
- Durchschnittliche Kundenbewertung: 8 Kundenrezensionen
Your Child's Self Esteem (Englisch) Hörkassette – Juni 1987
Es wird kein Kindle Gerät benötigt. Laden Sie eine der kostenlosen Kindle Apps herunter und beginnen Sie, Kindle-Bücher auf Ihrem Smartphone, Tablet und Computer zu lesen.
Geben Sie Ihre E-Mail-Adresse oder Mobiltelefonnummer ein, um die kostenfreie App zu beziehen.
Step-by step guidelines for raising responsible, productive, happy children. Self-image is your child's most important characteristic. How to help create strong feelings of self-worth is the central challenge for every parent and teacher. The formula for how is spelled out in Your Child's Self-Esteem. A member of Phi Beta Kappa and other honoraries, Dorothy Corkille Briggs has worked as a teacher of both children and adults; dean of girls; school psychologist; and marriage, family and child counselor during the last twenty-five years. Since 1958 she has taught parent-education courses and training in communication and resolution of conflicts. -- Dieser Text bezieht sich auf eine andere Ausgabe: Taschenbuch.
Leseprobe. Abdruck erfolgt mit freundlicher Genehmigung der Rechteinhaber. Alle Rechte vorbehalten.
Our Culture's Oversight
For decades psychologists have focused on mental illness and its cure. But the pervasiveness of psychological disorders is so extensive that there simply are not enough professional people to handle the afflicted. One study of 175,000 people in New York City showed that only 18.5 percent were free of the symptoms of mental illness. The number who limp through life in inner turmoil and whose potentials are mired in unbealthy defenses is of epidemic proportions. Neurotic hangups have become a way of life.
This is a staggering indictment of an unfortunate oversight in our culture: we parents are not trained for our job. Vast sums are spent to teach academic and vocational skills, but the art of becoming a nurturing parent is left to chance and a few scattered classes. And yet, paradoxically, we regard children as our most important national resource!
We turn freely to the medical and educational professions to check on our children's physical and intellectual progress. But for guidance on nurturing children to emotional health, we are left largely on our own. Even when symptoms appear, many parents regard consulting a psychologist as an admission of defeat. It is a last ditch resort.
The discrepancy between our valuing children on the one hand and our failure to give parents specific training for their job on the other hand seems to be based on the assumption that if you are a human being you should know how to raise one. But, becoming a parent does not automatically confer upon any of us the knowledge and skills to raise youngsters who are confident and steady and able to live as fully-functioning persons who lead meaningful lives. In short, preventing mental illness has not been given its proper emphasis. Yet, prevention remains our best hope for alleviating the high incidence of emotional disorder.
Most of us do our best, but much of the time we simply fly by the seat of our pants. The fact remains, however, that we, as well as our children, have to live with the results of our unintentional mistakes. And these mistakes have a way of being passed on to future generations. The impact of our culture's oversight is to some degree felt by all of us.
In our search for guidelines we parents have turned to the many books available on child-rearing. But here we find the important issues facing us treated on the whole as separate, isolated topics. We have not been given a cohesive, basic framework--the child's self-esteem--into which we may place each important facet of living with children.
This book gives just such a framework. Here is a new way of looking at child development: seeing all growth and behavior against the backdrop of the child's search for identity and self-respect. Step by step, you will be shown specifically how to build a solid sense of self-worth in your child. Then, your youngster is slated for personal happiness in all areas of his life. Unless you fully understand the nature of the human fabric and work with it, you travel blindly and may pay the price.
This book has been written because of my firm conviction, born of twenty-five years' work in psychology and education as well as from my experiences as a mother, that parenthood is too important for the "by-guess-and-by-golly" approach. Awareness of the facts can help you discharge your responsibilities toward those entrusted to your care, give you confidence as a parent, and point the way to your own personal development.
Over the years, parents in my classes have reported exciting changes in themselves and their children as they began to apply some of the ideas in this book. They have made statements such as the following about their experiences:
"This way of seeing children's growth has given me new confidence. I find I am a freer person, not so afraid of the responsibility of parenthood."
"Our whole family has become much closer and there is far less conflict. As my attitudes changed, so much smoothed out at home."
"I'm more relaxed and patient--even my husband has noticed it."
"I've learned to see myself and my children in a new light; I feel so much more understanding. It has brought my husband and me closer together indirectly."
"I've learned to live with my children instead of in spite of them!"
"As a father, I thought it was ridiculous to have a class about raising kids. I never realized how blind I've been. A whole new world has been opened to me. I only wish I'd known all this before I had children."
The evidence is strong. Knowing what you are doing and having a basic framework as a guide can help you live with your child so that he is emotionally healthy. Then, you don't need to worry; he has his feet on solid ground.
The fact that you are reading this book says that you care about your youngsters and your relationship with them. It suggests that you want your intentions for them to be fully-functioning persons to materialize. This caring, coupled with your interest in reaching out for new ideas, heads both you and your children in the direction of positive growth.
The Basis Of Emotional Health
Dreams and realities
You doubtless had a lot of notions about how you would handle your youngsters long before you had any. But behind them was dedication: you were determined to do a good job. Most of us take parenthood seriously; in a very real sense, we "go for broke." And then reality thuds against our plans. What looked so simple turns out to be far more complex.
No matter that they come in small packages; children touch off large-sized emotions in us. Joy, sureness, and delight intermingle with worry, guilt, and doubt. Fatigue and frustration come along in good measure. You brave dawdling and messes and torrents of "No's," and the next day it's pinching and tattling and who gets the phone. New sets of problems--they change but never end. There's no turning back.
Regardless, you strive to do your best. All along the way you invest heavily in caring, time, energy, and money. You spare no effort--proper food and clothes, attractive toys, the right medical care, and a constant "taxi circuit" to provide every advantage. Maybe you even scrimp for college and extra insurance.
In spite of good intentions and heartfelt efforts, however, some of you find your youngster not turning out as you would like. He is underachieving, emotionally immature, rebellious, or unduly withdrawn. Maybe he goes around with youngsters who are up to no good. "How can my child be having problems when I've done so much and tried so hard?" is a question bedeviling many a well-intentioned parent.
Even if your children are not having problems, hearing about the rising rates of juvenile delinquency, dope addiction, dropouts, venereal disease, and illegitimacy hardly lowers your anxiety level. A nagging uneasiness intermittently pokes its way into your consciousness to make you wonder how to keep your youngsters off such tortured paths. At odd moments uncertainty seeps in: "Am I doing a good job?" "Should I spank, reason, or ignore?" "What do I do now?" Those big ideas--those sure convictions--blur and fade.
Reality can make you lose confidence as a parent. But, regardless, you hold on to the dream of what your child could become. How can you make your dream come true?
The crucial ingredient
If you are like most parents, your hopes for your children are based on more than their avoiding nervous breakdowns, alcoholism, or delinquency. You want life's positives for them: inner confidence, a sense of purpose and involvement, meaningful, constructive relationships with others, success at... -- Dieser Text bezieht sich auf eine andere Ausgabe: Taschenbuch.
This is probably a good gift, because it might be hard for expecting parents to pick out among all the competitors. The books size looks impressive, but it is great to read, while providing all these insights how to be more supportive of anyone, with minor changes in your behavior.
Die neuesten Kundenrezensionen
I received this book as a gift 13 years ago. It became the main resource book I used while raising my kids. I now give it out to others as gifts. Lesen Sie weiter...Am 1. September 1999 veröffentlicht
This is the most valuable book on raising children there is. It should be required reading for every parent. These are simple, clear steps for raising happy, successful children. Lesen Sie weiter...Am 4. Juli 1998 veröffentlicht
This is one of the greatest books written in this century. It is a must for every parent, pastor and teacher.Veröffentlicht am 20. März 1998 von RJHOFF@earthlink.net