It is without a doubt that the writer spends a lot of time figuring out how to deal with children, and how children should be looked at. Unfortunately it's not as easy as it appears on paper. It is very different in the real world, the world we live in today. I can speak from experience in agreeing with the idea that "Children learn what they live", However, not all children grow up to adopt what they have lived. This book only points out the alternatives to parenting, not the real outcome of children who makes their own choices, children who feels that they are options in life, not everything they lived was subject to be learned and adopted.