Big Big Love: A Sourcebook on Sex for People of Size and Those Who Love Them [Englisch] [Taschenbuch]

Some of you are probably wondering why the heck anyone would bother writing a book about fat people and sex.

That's precisely the reason I did.

I'm Hanne Blank, the author of the world's first book about sex, sexuality, and relationships written by, for, and about people who aren't thin. I'm a big woman myself, a writer, editor, classically trained historian and musician, and sex educator. I'm also a person who has always had a very full and exciting love and sex life, and who has always been very interested in learning about sex and sexuality.

It didn't take me long to notice that everything I read about sexuality and relationships seemed to be written with someone else in mind. Books about sex and relationships simply don't tend to include people who aren't thin. It's not so much that they say fat people don't have sex or shouldn't… they just don't ever really mention people who are anything other than thin. In short, if you look at standard books on sex, people who aren't thin are… invisible!

That didn't seem quite right to me. After all, just how invisible are the approximately 97 million people in the United States who the US Government says are overweight to some degree or another? Not very!

97 million people is an awful lot of people. Being fat or overweight is one of the biggest unifying demographics around, cutting across race, age, economic status, education, geography, and political lines. It's a group that includes me, much of my family, many of my friends and loved ones, quite a few of my lovers, and a fairly good percentage of the people I see everyday as I go about my life. Most likely it includes a fairly good percentage of the people you see and talk to on a daily basis, too. No matter what they weigh or what size clothes they wear, people of size are a part of everyone's daily life!

Sex, in one way or another, is also part of everyone's daily life. Sexuality is part of being human, and that includes people who are overweight, chubby, plump, or outright fat. It even includes people who aren't really fat but think they are - you know who you are. Your sexuality is definitely part of your life right now, no matter how much or how little you weigh.

And yet, until now, it's been hard to find books that deal honestly and straightforwardly with issues of weight, size, and sex. For anyone who has ever had worries or concerns about their self-image, body size or weight, and how those things affect their sexiness or sexuality, it's been difficult to know where to look for information, insight, encouragement, and advice. You deserve better! That's why I wrote Big Big Love.

Big Big Love is a book that dares you to celebrate the body you have right this instant, no matter what it may weigh. In its pages, I invite everyone who reads it to revel in the wonderful potential of his or her own birthright of sexuality and sensual pleasure. You only have one body, and no matter what its size or shape, you'll feel more attuned to your sexuality and have a whole lot more fun if you stop waiting until your body is perfect and start enjoying the pleasures of the flesh you're in. Why weight to have a fabulous sex and love life?

Filled with quotations and insights from lots of sexy people of size and those who admire them, Big Big Love is a soup-to-nuts look at sexuality. From cultural observations about how size issues affect heterosexuals, gays, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgendered people to thoughts on how to deal with family pressure and rude comments about size and sexuality, and not forgetting plenty of advice on sexual positions, sex toys and techniques, and a jam-packed Resource Guide to all things sizeable and sexy, I wrote Big Big Love to give as many people as possible a new way of thinking about themselves, their sex lives, and their very sexy selves.

I'm very pleased to be able to bring you this new book, and with it, a new way to think about body image, weight, and sexuality. May you enjoy reading it - and putting its principles into practice - every bit as much as I've enjoyed writing it!

Cheers!

-- Hanne Blank, author