Badass: A Hard-Earned Guide to Living Life with Style and (the Right) Attitude [Englisch] [Gebundene Ausgabe]

I was a fan of Shannen in the 90s and thought it'd be cool to read what she has to say about her experience at that time. The book is pleasant to read. She mostly acknowledges her past mistakes and advises integrity, honesty, and self-confidence; the badass way. She explains she never was a bitch as she never intended to hurt anyone. The book is good, very entertaining, and has lots and lots of great pictures. She has a great sense of humor. I recommend it if you like her and/or want to read about things you might have experienced yourself. Also, I went to her book signing in New York. I wanted to meet her in person. She is the sweetest celebrity I've ever met. She was very friendly and talked to all of us for quite a long time. She also took pictures with everyone. That proves how nice and genuine she is. Way to go, Shannen!

I'll start with a friendly warning; BADASS is NOT an autobiography, it is clearly marketed towards personal growth and self help

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I've never bought (or even read) a self help book before, and I only bought BADASS because Shannen Doherty wrote it, so I had no idea what to expect. BADASS is a lifestyle guide that is spilt into three clear sections:

* BADASS BASIC TRAINING

What is a badass, why you should want to be one and a simple guide on how to become one and live your life to it's full potential.

* THE BADASS ART OF LOVE AND WAR

Once you've know how to improve yourself, it's time to learn how to apply your new and improved outlook with family, friends colleagues and partner.

* LIVING THE BADASS LIFESTYLE

Now you've changed your outlook and attitude accordingly - and have also changed the way that you interact with the people around you - you need to think about your surroundings and the things you do too.

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Part one starts with Shannen clarifying what the term badass means to her: Living your life with integrity, honesty, and self--confidence. Once we know and understand what our goal is Shannen advises us how to stop wasting time and opportunities people-pleasing and hiding away and becoming smart, honest, more confident and assertive - all while avoiding the trap of coming across as being bitchy.

Section two is more in depth, especially the advise for intimate relationships. Some people may find some of the advice in section two old fashioned; For instance she asks how hard is it to shave your legs and underarms for your partner? Some people may be initially outraged, but think about it - would you like it if he/she always slobbed about and never made an effort for you?

The advice for family, friends and work colleagues doesn't contain as much information and is fairly interchangeable. But what is included is easy to follow; Be respectful, don't sweat the little things and if you ever get drawn into an argument over something simply say "I'd like to research. Can I get back to you in a bit?" and walk away.

She also gives advice on 'stalking' - as in spying on a partner you suspect of being unfaithful, which is something that I suspect other advice books don't advise doing. Shannen does point out that it's a little crazy, but why sit at home worrying with unanswered questions when you can easily find the answers? It does make her sound a little bit, umm, paranoid, but again I did find myself nodding along her her arguement. I guess I'm a bit paranoid too...

Section three is varied and I can see myself coming back to it numerous times in the future. There's everything from lists of the best 'Badass gal' lipstick shades and nail polish shades, how to fake a French manicure in a matter of seconds, how to make a cover for a patio, decorating, hosting parties small or large, Shannen's favourite recipes, all the way to the best holiday destinations.

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OK, so BADASS doesn't contain any groundbreaking information or advice, but I like how practical and to-the-point Shannen is with the information and how she will provide examples from her own life to back-up how well the tips and guides worked for her. She doesn't come across as pretentious or patronising, simply friendly and intelligent.

I love how Shannen has made the tips and stories personal; It feels like your chatting together over coffee as she does add general instances from her life and work to stop the advice from becoming a cold, clinical laundry list of what to and what not to do. Shannen has wrote the book as if she's talking to another woman, but there's nothing in here that can't be followed by a man - well, maybe the lipstick and French manicure tips can be skipped.

As Shannen is a keen photographer and is the art directer for a Californian magazine [Pasadena magazine], so I was hoping that the book would be illustrated and have an attractive layout and I was pleased to be right. As well as professional portraits there are plenty of personal snaps of Shannen, her family and her close friends.

In addition to that the blocks of text are broken up a bit with various check lists, inspirational quotes and do's and don'ts so you can make sure that you have taken the information in fully before moving on. The layout also makes the book easy to get back into if you have to put it down for a bit.

I bought this book because there was a book signing in NYC. I didnt have any expectations at all. I'm reading the book and I think it's one of the best books I've ever read. She gives amazing advice from the heart and from her own experience. I'm going to buy several books and give them as gifts this Christmas. Everyone can benefit from this book, men & women. Bravo to Shannen!