Anger and the Indigo Child [Englisch] [Taschenbuch]

As parents we were 100% sure the diagnosis "pdd-nos and severely retarded" was 100% wrong. And we had to fight prejudices of experts, teachers, social workers, etc. who were all convinced that a) they were absolutely right and b) we were "in denial".
In the meantime our daughter has proven them wrong. As soon as she started attending "normal" education she flourished and was soon regarded as extremely intelligent, but with a very special attitude. The "Most common traits of Indigo children" chapter in the book beautifully describes the traits of our daughter and many of her classmates.

The chapters about anger, transforming anger, recognizing angerpatterns have helped me tremendously and instantly to recognize and release my own anger, fear and sadness. This has resulted within a week from starting to read the book in a transformation of not only my emotions but in the transformation of our daughter's emotions as well. We are now one week away from summer holidays and last week the teachers at school applauded our daughter. "She seems totally changed, as if she has cheered up in all her cells" one of the teachers said.

Recognizing the building-up of emotions as well as the suppression of anger, fear and sadness gives me a huge advantage as a mother, as a wife, as a human being and as a professional trainer of NLP.

I cannot thank Dianne Lancaster enough for writing this must-read master piece, that can transform your anger into love. Bravo!!

Chapter One of this book explains the terminology, so you don't have to scurry around looking for references to understand the perspectives. Nevertheless, I'd recommend you read "The Indigo Children" by Lee Carroll and Jan Tober and "The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children" by Doreen Virtue. Their work will give you deep insight into Indigos, while this book focuses on anger management issues and techniques and their relationship to Indigo children...and others.

At first, scanning the table of contents, I suspected this was the work of an anger therapist or seminar leader looking for another place to promote her work. Part of this attitude on my part came from seeing the trademark indicator on several of Lancaster's theories and approaches. As I read the book, I came to realize that the trademarks show that this professional has done some fine, groundbreaking work that is worthy of respect and recognition. There's a tremendous amount of good content in this volume.

Chapter Three caught my attention: 44 Ways to Show Kids You Care. There's a whole book right there, I pondered. And, sure enough, there is a great deal of advice in those pages. Thinking of how I'd applied the principles with my own children, I patted myself on the back reading a few of them-emphasis on the word "few." Every parent should have this list on a laminated card within easy reach.

The book continues with the same value, chapter after chapter. Not every word is an original thought of Dianne Lancaster. She brings in chapters written by others or tapping into the work of others. This technique makes two statements to me: first, Lancaster realizes she doesn't have all the answers (bravo!), and second, she knows who does have answers and invests an extra effort to be sure the reader gains maximum benefit from her book.

I will admit that there are parts of this book, like the chapter on symbology, that stretched credibility for me. You should know that I'm fairly well hard-wired to solid knowledge and some of the approaches in this field push the edges of my envelope. What does this mean to you? As a reader, your mind will be stretched. Even if you reject some part(s) of what you read in this book, you will gain so much that you'll want to read some sections again. The book is designed to facilitate that kind of usage, so go right ahead.

Glossary, Resource List, no index. It would have been nice to have an index, but the Table of Contents is so comprehensive, you don't really need an index.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I have to compose a letter to my Indigo child. Yes, a letter: to give her time to re-read, re-think, and absorb, as you'll do with this book.