am 26. August 2013
I guess I have to give this a reasonable review in recognition of Savage's importance in contemporary debates around sexuality and my underlying sympathy with much of what he says. Not all however: he is unremittingly nativist on sexual orientation, has little real psychological insight into kink, and oversimplifies bisexuality. These are quite considerable failings for someone in his position, but at the same time he takes on the US right-wing establishment with such heroic force and humor that you have to forgive him. He is also too journalistic and black and white in his views, rarely pausing to look at the world from others' perspectives. it's entertaining fr a while, but ultimately it gets tedious and you are left wishing for a bit more nuance. He is, however, such a hero for gay kids and non-monogamists that I recommend to buy his book merely as a gesture of support. I read in it hardly anything I had not heard several times in the podcast, but it may be better as a gift for someone who isn't likely to listen to the podcast, and of course it's a more condensed introduction to his thought.
am 8. September 2013
Dan Savage pulls no punches. And that's good, because the punches he delivers are right in the smacker of the people who deserve them.
If you get your bloomers in a twist over a series of F-bombs, then you will probably miss the gravity and seriousness of Savage's message and think this book is just trash. I encourage you, however, to steel yourself for the abrasive - and, let's face it, folks, quotidian - vocabulary and absorb the important and potentially salubrious commentary he unloads in this love letter to America.